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Summer 2018 Reiki Workshops
The weather is already warming up here (in the 60’s since Easter), although could snow at a moment’s notice. That’s what I love about mountain life, is the quick changes that take place, mirroring my preferred process. Immersing yourself in nature brings about peace within a person and creates the perfect backdrop and nurturing for Reiki and cultivating an amazing awareness of your own inner self and essence, while providing the channel for accessing your own guidance system.
We are so busy with “stuff” we fill our lives with that we forget to slow down and enjoy the peace of nature.
As mentioned, I am creating two days of Reiki workshops this Summer to help you tune into the nature of you, slow down and step out of life’s madness, while being supported by the beautiful energy of Lake Tahoe and our Forest Portal.
These will be the only opportunities to learn Reiki with me this year. So if it has been speaking to you, 2018 might be the time of profound change you’ve been wanting in your life.
These will be group workshops for locals to the surrounding areas or anyone wanting to travel and enjoy Lake Tahoe’s beauty and magick, while receiving your certification. You could make a weekend of it and use the other day to integrate in nature and allow the natural world to nurture you.
After great deliberation, I’m going to be offering my usual Reiki 1 & 2 Accelerated workshop and a Reiki 3 Master Teacher workshop, as I still feel that the people called to me are ready for bigger leaps and I want to provide the most tools I can to support that. So rather than break up Reiki 1 & 2 into two days, this will provide the needed elements in a fully packed day. It also feels more supportive to any potential travel attendees.
There will be a minimum requirement for the workshops, since I’m only offering this once this year, they are a lot of work to put together and time to put aside, as well as provides a good energy mix for the workshop. So, it is important to yourself and the others, that you make a commitment, and embrace the responsibility of the path you have chosen for the highest good of all concerned.
A lot of people expressed interest, but in the end commitment speaks louder, so there will also be registration deadlines and pre-registration discounts to assist. All of this can be found below.
If for some reason the minimum requirement is not met, anyone who has pre-registered will receive a full refund.
There will also be a limited max of spaces available, as I want to ensure everyone gets the attention needed, and are comfortable in the space I have to offer.
So, if you’re ready to commit to a positive, life-changing experience, you can register below.
*** Please make sure to read the details, which are ALL included here, as to the guidelines of what your commitment involves. ***
OPPORTUNITY #1
Reiki 1 & 2 Accelerated Workshop: Saturday, June 23, 2018 from 9 am – 6 pm
Minimum required attendees – 2 / Maximum spaces available – 6
REGISTRATION CLOSED
This workshop will be taught at the onset of Summer (just after the Solstice of the 21st) in Stateline, NV at Lake Tahoe at a private residence called the Forest Portal – details and address will be provided to registrants before the time of workshop.
Past students of mine are welcome to join for free review, given there are enough new registrants to meet the required attendee minimum for teaching this workshop. Please let me know of your interest, as I will have a limited amount of room for review students.
Class Description, Reiki I:
In Reiki Level I, you’ll learn about the history, principles, ethics and practice of Reiki. You’ll experience Reiki, receive an attunement and start a 21-day energetic cleanse. You’ll learn scanning, Reiki lineage, hand positions for giving in-person, hands-on treatments to others and yourself and more. This class can help you begin the journey of creating more harmony and peace in your daily life and in your interaction with people to help center you more in compassion.
Class Description, Reiki II:
Reiki Level II is where you learn to support any intention, person, animal or global cause from a distance and can choose to “send” Reiki towards creating peaceful, harmonious and graceful outcomes. Plus, be able to lend your support to any cause or intent even when you are unable to physically be present. In Reiki Level II, you’ll learn three Reiki Symbols to deepen your work and use of Reiki, and you’ll receive a second attunement. You’ll learn how to send Reiki through space and time, heal the past, empower the future, embrace the present, support mental and emotional balance and more. Reiki II cultivates a deeper awareness of your inner voice and intuition.
OPPORTUNITY #2
Reiki 3 Master Teacher Workshop: Saturday, August 25, 2018 from 9 am – 6 pm
Minimum required attendees – 2 / Maximum spaces available – 6
This workshop will be taught in the energy of the Full Moon (which will be in the early morning of the next day – 26th) in Stateline, NV at Lake Tahoe at a private residence called the Forest Portal – details and address will be provided to registrants before the time of workshop.
Past students of mine are welcome to join for free review, given there are enough new registrants to meet the required attendee minimum for teaching this workshop. Please let me know of your interest, as I will have a limited amount of room for review students.
Class Description, Reiki III:
Reiki Level III Master Teacher Class involves learning 3 Reiki Master Symbols including Tibetan, Anthakarana and Usui Master Symbols, Violet Breath, Hui Yin exercise, healing attunement instruction, receiving a third attunement, learning advanced techniques, and more. You will also be given instruction on how to give attunements for all levels and how to teach them as well. You learn what it means to be a teacher, while helping to nurture more confidence, commitment and responsibility to your service.
Pre-registration Discount Price for Reiki 3 – $550 (save $100)
Pre-registration deadline to receive discount is July 4th
Registration Price for Reiki 3 – $650
Final deadline to register at full price is August 11th
*** If for some reason you have to cancel, cancellations will need to be done on or before August 11th. If done by this date you will receive a full refund. If however, you cancel after the 11th of August, refunds are not available, but I will provide you a full credit to apply to a future workshop. Again, this is due to the amount of work, time, and preparation that goes into this. I thank you for your understanding.
OPPORTUNITY #3
Reiki 1, 2 & 3 Discounts – For anyone who wants to take all three levels and is ready to commit to the full journey
Pre-registration Discount Price for all 3 Levels – $950 (save an extra $50 off for a total of $200 in savings)
Pre-registration deadline to receive discount is May 5th
Registration Price for all 3 Levels – $1000 (you still save $150 off regular price)
Final deadline to register at full price is June 9th
*** If for some reason you have to cancel, cancellations will need to be done on or before June 9th. If done by this date you will receive a full refund. If however, you cancel after the 9th of June, refunds are not available, but I will provide you a full credit to apply to a future workshop. Again, this is due to the amount of work, time, and preparation that goes into this. I thank you for your understanding.
ABOUT REIKI:
This offering is provided with intention to support you to help yourself and to learn how to provide an optimal healing opportunity for other people and animals towards compassionate goals, intentions and worldwide healing and change. Reiki is a perfect antidote to stress relief, more peace, clarity and overall well being that can transform and help support your chosen path in life. As a very powerful aid to personal growth, Reiki works on a physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level. Reiki can also help to empower your goals and intentions, and more efficiently come from a heart-based place in attaining desired, harmonious results for the highest good. It is a complimentary treatment to any and all other treatment modalities, improves their effectiveness and benefits and helps to stimulate the body’s own natural healing abilities. It is not meant to replace professional medical advice and Reiki practitioners do not diagnose or prescribe medication. You will be learning the Usui System of Natural Healing.
Women’s Tattoos in History – Form of Rebellion, Taking Back Control of the Body & Self Empowerment
This is a cool, short article Dave brought to my attention from TIME Magazine, written by Olivia B. Waxman that I thought was interesting to share on the history of women’s tattoos. Every now and then tattoo info hits the scene and I love how it brings to light more of the energy dynamics that I’ve integrated for myself. I love learning of how things have evolved and in this particular article found an interesting connection with Winston Churchill’s mother Lady Randolph Churchill, who is said to have had a snake tattoo on her wrist (like me!).
The article shares, “Tattoos were an early way that women took control of their bodies.”
Here’s the article link: The Surprising History of Women’s Tattoos
Update:
I was alerted by one of my readers that were unable to access this article link, saying it was only for subscribers. I’m not a subscriber and had been able to open the link myself, but just in case others have the challenge too, I am copying the very short article below:
Circuses and sideshows may not seem like obvious places to look for stories of female empowerment, but experts say the performers who appeared in such acts played a surprising and important role in women’s history–in large part thanks to their tattoos.
The height of sideshow and circus popularity in the mid–19th century came at a time when women had few opportunities for economic independence, and providing for families was largely a man’s job. Not so for the female sideshow performers, many of whom capitalized on the fascination with body art by voluntarily tattooing themselves, enabling them to make their own money. (Though some were forcibly tattooed.)
Ink liberated Victorian-era women outside the circus as well. Wealthy socialites, for example, got tattoos as a form of rebellion. At the time, social mores required these women to keep their whole bodies covered. And so–influenced by tattooed British royals–they started summoning ink artists to their homes to give them designs they could hide. Winston Churchill’s mother Lady Randolph Churchill is said to have had a snake tattoo on her wrist (easily covered by a wineglass or sleeve); by the turn of the 20th century, roughly three-fourths of fashionable New York City ladies had gotten similarly trendy tattoos, including butterflies, flowers and dragons, according to the New York World.
As Cristian Petru Panaite, curator of an exhibit on the 300-year history of tattooing, open now at the New-York Historical Society, puts it, “Tattoos were an early way that women took control of their bodies.”
Manifestation Discernment
Just because you manifest an opportunity, doesn’t mean you have to take it, especially if it doesn’t match your integrity fully or your own needs.
Each manifestation is an opportunity to learn to refine your skills and clarify your vision in mirror to your trueness.
So, if you have to still struggle, force, manipulate, and become frustrated with it, or it just doesn’t still feel fully right, then chances are it’s a nicely wrapped package, but the contents still aren’t in alignment.
This is a good sign your manifesting skills are at work and they just need a little more tweaking in terms of connecting with your core needs.
Remember, it’s both important to be giving and receiving in balance.
So, go back to focusing on the “essence” of what you want to manifest and support yourself with belief and value so you can be a clear voice that will be heard and mirrored in its purity.
Then perhaps the opportunity may shift to match your clarity, or you will easily be able to say no, knowing the more aligned manifestation is on the way.
Embracing My Truth
My last video share from the Sedona area, as we leave Sunday. This expresses a personal shift and how that reflects in more changes I’m implementing.
Details will be upcoming in April’s newsletter and likely also a blog share.
Below the video you’ll find photos of the ruins I spoke of in it (you can see the perimeter of each dwelling), the ancient springs pond that sits behind where I got the massage I just received right before making the video while I sat in the meadow waiting for Dave to receive his after me, and the piece of ancient pottery and perhaps arrowhead or some other sacred object I found, along with a little piece of crystalline, sparkly sweet, cosmic magick I also found on the ground while here in Sedona.
Grateful to be retrieving more parts of myself.
Wishing you peaceful transitions into embodying your own truth that nourishes your essence.
Last Reiki Workshop August 16th & My Thoughts On Teaching Reiki
A reminder to all locals or anyone coming through the area – next Sunday, August 16th is the last group Reiki workshop available, as I’ll be heading off on a 3 month sabbatical beginning September 1st.
That’s just one week away and I can accommodate up to just 2 more people that feel called to join.
This will be a Reiki 1 and 2 Accelerated Workshop from 9 am – 6pm where you’ll receive training and certification in both levels.
There’s no experience necessary and all are welcome that feel drawn to a path of self-empowerment.
You don’t need to have a goal of making this your professional practice, but you will find that it will become your daily practice that will provide life-enhancing benefit to yourself and others in your life, including family, friends, animal companions, and the Earth at large.
We have a lovely group that both new and past students are welcome to join.
You can contact me here with questions and to register: Contact Tania
If you’d like to learn how to provide yourself with energetic support on all levels that can help you with integrative healing, empowering the manifestation of goals and intents, support more peace in your life, decrease stress, anxiety, and pain, help with moving through energetic blocks, provide you instant tools to basically have assistance with anything at any time, develop more self-confidence, courage, and self-love while fostering the same in others, help return you to natural harmony within and without, and so much more….then you may find Reiki to be resonating for you, as it has been for me and many others.
My Thoughts & Feelings About Teaching Reiki:
I find Reiki to be one of the channels that supports us to “be” the love of the New Earth experience and a way to help spread that energy of loving service to others.
And for me, my joy is in empowering others. Teaching Reik is such a gift to be able to give and to see each person transform through the process is rewarding beyond words. I love how with each level and initiation attunement, the personal shifts they experience just keep amping up. It’s sometimes something they don’t notice, since it seems to naturally take place, until I call their attention to look at how far they have come. Amazing!
It’s also a hugely transformative and empowering process for the teacher. I know that my life has transformed exponentially since starting to teach Reiki in 2007. It’s not something I thought I would do when I first started down the Reiki path, but it definitely was where I was meant to go and not only assisted this area of my life gifts to share, but supported all areas of my life and opened up so many more latent gifts, evolutionary change, and courage of heart than I can even begin to express. Going down the path of becoming a Reiki Master Teacher, or being a teacher in any genre, is truly a life-changing experience for yourself and all whom you will touch in your life.
There’s a beautiful magick that takes place during a class or a treatment session that brings deeper inner, and mirroring outer, connection. As a teacher, I feel that my commitment is to continually embrace and surrender to the Spirit of Reiki consistently in my life – which to me is unconditional love – to live a life of service by working towards being an example of the principles consistently in my life, and to always challenge myself to keep growing and learning. I feel that a good teacher is also simultaneously a good student. When ever I’m teaching or doing a treatment, it reminds me how life-changing each moment is in providing opportunity for making a profound, evolutionary difference.
William Lee Rand shares this about becoming a Reiki Master: “The desire to grow is inherent in simply being alive. As we look around ourselves and observe living things, we can clearly see that the one activity that all living things share is growth. Everything that is alive grows. Because this is what living things do, one could even say that the purpose of life is to grow. Therefore, the desire to grow in ones Reiki potential is a natural expression of ones core essence and of life itself. If you feel this desire in your heart, honor and respect it. Doing so, will fulfill an innate need.”
Reiki may not be the path for everyone, but it definitely is a supportive tool for anyone to actively be a part of the change you wish to see.
Look Within
Whenever you want to produce something,
do not depend upon the outside source:
go deep and seek the Infinite Source.
~Paramahansa Yogananda
Is Logic Running Your Life?
Within the deepest portion of your being, you know what you are here to do. A lot of what gets in the way of your “knowing” this is basing life on logical functioning – and very fearful logical functioning, at that.
Logically thinking you don’t have what it takes or that you “can’t” do it, is what gets in your way.
You can become fearful of possibilities because they seem out of your seeming “control” and if something challenges the comfort you have grown accustomed to and the answers you like to “know”, it makes sense why the “unknown” and unlimited potentials can be scary. It puts you in the mode of being only in full trust and heart knowing, rather than the need to have things meet your sense of logical deduction and concrete evidence.
There are miracles in the every day happening all around, as well as the existence of experiences and things that are there regardless of whether or not you choose to believe, understand, or know it.
How much more fun and creatively empowering might it be, though, if you just opened the door to possibility?
The realization that there is more than what you are currently experiencing in your limited scope of life, along with being open to the possibilities, will create a ripple effect of expansive potentials.
The best thing you can do when logic wants to take over is to observe and acknowledge all of what it has to say, including asking it questions and being open to some vulnerable answers. This helps you not only to understand yourself, but to understand others and why they are challenged with making different choices you might be frustrated with them for.
Opening your heart and compassion for self and others, and having the courage to let go and feel, will be your empowerment.
The Teaching of Your Soul – Everything You Need is Within You
I have been a seeker and I still am, but I stopped asking the books and the stars. I started listening to the teaching of my Soul. ~Rumi
One of the most liberating and empowering things I have discovered over the course of 25+ years of searching, studies, and self-reflection, is that the secret to beginning to discover your natural frequency of authenticity is much more simple than it seems, or that you’ve been led to believe it is.
Everything outside of yourself is simply a tool to discover what all of those “things” are reflecting about what you already have inside of yourself. Recognition and full embodied embrace of this will help to unravel the stream of innate wisdom within the Source of you.
Part of this comes with recognition that you are a boundless multidimensional being with no real basis for fear, other than a decision to keep feeding and believing in it, in order to set up whatever teachings and experiences you choose need to go through.
Part of this comes with learning wise discernment that stems from the core truth of your heart and Divine Source Center. Everyday you are bombarded by so many levels of over-stimulation that comes even in the form of New Age spiritual explanations and teachings, along with every kind of “right” and “wrong” verbiage that can be very confusing, as they all will play see-saw with your mind and feelings, as well as negate and desecrate each other.
It’s a constant war of duality and “either/or” mentality, completing ignoring the myriad of possibilities and experiences that serve only the Law of Free Will that everyone conveniently forgets when they “seem” to discover some breakthrough that feels really good to them.
It can become very confusing to decipher truth, especially if you are seeking from “outside”, rather than turning “within” to run everything through your own heart filter.
I’m not negating the exploration of learning in whatever form you are led to, but I am making an emphasizing point that just because things “look” a certain way and a lot of people are following it, doesn’t make it the end-with-all answer. The answers will only come in the form of your own filtration of personal and authentic truth.
And far too often we are giving away our power and energy and feeling we need to keep searching for these epiphany answers and the flood of light that will bolt us out of this existence, in order to think and feel we are on the so-called “right” path and have discovered “the” answer.
Constant studies, while can help you to decipher what is you and what is not you, and to expand your perspectives, and abilities to discern and think wider, can also be a trap to keep you in perpetual soul-schooling devised to keep you from ever walking in the empowered embodiment of you that you already are.
It would be of benefit to take time in silence and in nature, to take portions of your days, or a day each week, to designate to feeling what it is like to be you outside of everything else in your life.
Yes, life will go on without you and you will benefit far greater than continuing to engage incessantly with the outside world, only. This will also help you to take back your energy and power and to learn what it feels to be in your frequency and what it feels like when something infiltrates that and takes you out of that balance, harmony, and centeredness.
You will learn very quickly how to then decipher what is really a reflection and alignment with YOUR truth because you’ll know when something triggers from outside, taking you off-kilter, and is just a passing story.
It will benefit you tremendously to stop all searching outside of yourself for fulfillment and start bringing your undivided focus and energy within yourself where the infinite Source of love, awareness, and liberating truth is.
It does not come without the need for courage to look within at all aspects of yourself, as it is here that you will also face your shadow parts – parts that are crucial and invaluable to the journey of wholeness you seek.
Laura Bruno succinctly expressed this belief I share, in her earlier post today:
“Part of effective Shadow Work includes sifting through the so-called darkness in order to find, heal and reclaim forgotten pieces of ourselves. We don’t transcend duality by rejecting half of it, but rather by empowering ourselves through love and wisdom, so that we can rebalance anything unnatural in ourselves and world.”
Yes, we have focused our attention long enough on the outside world and on every other thing possible that simply must have the answer or simply must be the “problem”. We also allow everything to suck us dry with worry over this, fear about that, who’s doing what, how you are told to look, act, feel, live, and what the next “quick fix” or “miracle” discovery is that will be the answer you seek.
But it is within your inner landscape, ultimately your best friend awaiting your recognition of her/his love for you, where clarity of the truth of who you are can reveal itself if you patiently, lovingly, and fearlessly reach out your hand in the dark to receive their eternally unwavering, outreached hand.
It is here that the answer lies and no where else. Any person or teacher that tells you otherwise, that doesn’t help to empower you into your own authenticity and truth, is someone to be wary of.
The inner world feels more unknown than anything outside because you have spent more waking hours exploring everywhere but there. This creates resistance, as the mind and ego doesn’t like the unfamiliar and certainly doesn’t want to know that it could be that easy to reflect within, when you’ve been taught that life is long, hard work, not to mention that there’s some ideal experience you must attain to reach.
It is ridiculous to think it could really be simple, right? It’s ridiculous to think that your natural essence is all there is to “be”. 😉 But it is.
And this unknown factor and the willingness to embrace your greatest fears and pains are the only reasons it may “seem” scary, but with engaging your FULL inner realm, this can become the most invaluable, fulfilling, and irreplaceable treasure you’ve ever experienced or had.
As I expressed in resounding agreement with this month’s energy forecast from Lee Harris:
I fully believe and agree that the more centered and grounded you are, the more ready you are and will be for ANYTHING that comes your/our way. And the more centered you are, the more empowered you will be.
Embracing your own sovereignty of heart, you are untouchable to anything and anyone.
And the more you reveal of your authentic self, the more whole and powerful you will become.
The Alchemy of Responsible Reflection
I have been feeling prompted to repost this blog for the last few days, given what I’m picking up on and hearing in the collective field of experience. So as always, I’m listening to that nudge and sharing this again. Perhaps it will speak to you in some way needed, or will be the little reminder or click that aligns with current experiences. Wishing you clarity and balance in your relationships with self, others, and your experiences at large.
Take time to reflect
As we each move through the waves of current energies flowing in and out of our lives these days, it can be helpful to understand how to navigate more easily and transmute energies more quickly.
One of these ways is the mirroring process, which we all have heard of and hear reiterated often, but if you really actually put it to practice, you will see it as one of the powerfully effective tools that it is, which can instantly shift your experiences and empower you.
Many times we avoid, repress, ignore, turn the cheek or our back on, and convince ourselves about things, while we may find excuses to have our choices superficially fill the spiritual ideals we have come to value, yet haven’t really integrated at the core. One red flag or message that shows you you have not fully transmuted something is if it…
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The Alchemy of Responsible Reflection
Take time to reflect
As we each move through the waves of current energies flowing in and out of our lives these days, it can be helpful to understand how to navigate more easily and transmute energies more quickly.
One of these ways is the mirroring process, which we all have heard of and hear reiterated often, but if you really actually put it to practice, you will see it as one of the powerfully effective tools that it is, which can instantly shift your experiences and empower you.
Many times we avoid, repress, ignore, turn the cheek or our back on, and convince ourselves about things, while we may find excuses to have our choices superficially fill the spiritual ideals we have come to value, yet haven’t really integrated at the core.
One red flag or message that shows you you have not fully transmuted something is if it continually patterns back, either in the same exact way and from the same exact source, or from a new source, but with the same underlying story.
I know for myself, one of the most empowering ways I have learned, and am daily learning, to shift my experiences, is by actively facing the mirror. Of course we all have human feelings that can at first react, rather than respond, or simply come up for us to express. But the reason for these reactions and releases are for us to take note of their message.
If something bothers you on some level, there is something in it to learn about yourself and why that is.
Could it be that there are ways in your own life you are the same as what you are not liking in another?
Could it be that you have ignored something about yourself that you are being shown to do or express?
Could it be sharing a theme that needs healing in your life or that calls for greater understanding and compassion?
Could it be that you are needing to learn the truth of unconditionally loving detachment both of self and others?
If you are a light worker, healer, visionary, leader, etc…much of what comes up can also be about helping you to get to a new level of understanding within, so that you can be of greater service to others.
So it really can be beneficial to pay attention and look inside, re-evaluate, and create a new direction for your life.
Even if we create a superficial boundary, but haven’t truly integrated the learning, no matter where we run or go, the same things will follow just in a new way and form, until we actually take a look at the underlying meaning and deal with it. That boundary would need a healthy, core foundation in order to create new experiences.
I know this very well in my own life, that core patterns will continue to cycle around until I look within and make the necessary adjustments. And they have changed by my doing so.
And when new things come up, or in the case of a pattern, old things come up, I allow my feelings to move through me without judgment, as it’s the only way I will be able to move through them in a healthy way. It also is the way I can instantly then be present and look at those feelings and look at myself, as an observer watching through the mirror, and find out what it means for me.
And then the healing integration immediately takes place and I relate to the thing, or person, and in essence, myself, in a completely different way and with greater sense of peace and empowerment, as well as more compassion, and can communicate more clearly.
The reaction then turns into my learning to more presently respond and come from a deeper place when I do. It takes practice, but with practice it becomes much easier. And with everything accelerating, it can happen instantly.
That isn’t to mean we won’t ever come up against something else, once we do integrate certain things, as we are continually evolving and we will have new things to help us to get to new experiences.
However, our processes can completely change and become more natural and we won’t be looking at it as this thing to do or work on, but we just instantly work the magick and poof! Instant alchemy.
It’s about empowering yourself.
The only reason things seem to happen “to us” is because we aren’t taking responsibility in our own lives and realizing our ability to actively be part of our experience.
Maybe some see this as a burden and why it may feel easier to turn away from things or ignore something even in the heat of the moment.
But do realize you can shift everything “through” YOU and create more natural balance as a result.
Here is what Shakti Gawain has to share about learning from your mirrors:
Often, we are so stuck in our old beliefs and patterns that we aren’t able to see the changes we need to make. Even when we feel frustrated about our problems, we may not recognize what we need to learn to change things. That is why we need to use the mirror of life. Everything in our lives reflects where we are in the process of developing integration and balance. We can use everything that happens externally as a mirror to help us see the areas within us that need healing and development. Whenever we have a problem, especially a recurring or chronic problem, it is always an arrow pointing directly to some aspect of our psyche where we need more awareness.
We all attract certain people into our life who have developed qualities opposite to the ones we are most identified with. In other words, they mirror our disowned selves, and we mirror theirs. These are often the most highly emotionally charged relationships. We either love them, hate them, or both! We feel very attracted to them, and/or very uncomfortable, judgmental, annoyed, or frustrated with them. The stronger the feelings, the more important a mirror they are for us. We have drawn them into our reality to show us something about what we need to develop in ourselves. The fact that we have such strong feelings (one way or another) toward them means that they are showing us a part of ourselves we need to acknowledge, accept, and integrate.
Of course, it’s important in any relationship to learn constructive ways to communicate honestly about our needs, our likes and dislikes, and so forth. However, along with letting the other person know our feelings, including ways we might wish they would change, we need to remind ourselves that we brought them into our lives to teach and inspire us to develop new aspects of ourselves. Our challenge, then, is to be open to discovering the parts of ourselves that they mirror for us, and to learn how we can express those parts of ourselves more in our own lives. Difficulties we are having in our relationships often mirror parts of ourselves that we need to heal. Such difficulties may involve a family member, a close friend, a coworker, or even people with whom we have only a brief encounter, such as a clerk in a store. If you are having difficulty with a present relationship, or if you frequently encounter certain kinds of difficult people — for example, a needy person or a person who doesn’t respect your boundaries — take a moment to look closely at what they are reflecting.
The people we are in relationship with are always a mirror, reflecting our own beliefs, and simultaneously we are mirrors reflecting their beliefs. So relationship is one of the most powerful tools for growth… if we look honestly at our relationships we can see so much about how we have created them.
Tania Marie 