Be Soft, Be Strong


A short message that Astrid and I would like to share together. It’s about strength in vulnerability. The strength in softness and the power of a gentle heart.

You have been taught to keep fighting, to stay strong, be tough, put on your game face, and power through things. This can lead to a survival mechanism that keeps you enduring the hardships. However, it can also create a wall to deeper connection, intimacy, enjoyment, and pleasure, and keep you always at the surface.

At some point a big storm can hit that hardness and rather than bend with the winds, your tree may crack and fall.

“It’s the hard things that break; soft things don’t break. It was an epiphany I had today and I just wonder why it took me so very, very long to see it! You can waste so many years of your life trying to become something hard in order not to break; but it’s the soft things that can’t break! The hard things are the ones that shatter into a million pieces!” ~C. Joybell C.

Hardness, alone, protects and shields. It avoids the pain.

But it also avoids the pleasure and seals the cracks of light to your heart.

Hardness is the armor erected because fear of pain is so great, but isn’t true strength. And this becomes a heavy weight to bear, until you can’t bear it anymore.

The fight is an ongoing circle.

Surrender brings growth.

When you instead allow pain to be a guiding source to greater compassion, you soften into a more humble and inspired way of life. If pain hurts, then use that pain as a gateway to opening your heart to others who hurt too. Open your heart to the child within who gets sealed behind a wall if hardness, alone, sets in.

Softness invites a gentler approach and invites others to step forward in life, as well as invites opportunity for enrichment. Softness safely beckons your inner child forward to play alongside you.

When softness turns to push over, this can place you as a victim.

True softness is empowered compassion. It knows the balance of strength and gentleness and that the two do not have to live separately, but instead thrive in a marriage together.

You can learn the balance of soft strength or powerful softness. You can move in and out of each rather than being one or the other. This creates healthy and fulfilling boundaries.

You learn to be loving and compassionate, committed and fiercely empowered.


About Tania Marie's Blog

Creating life as a work of art with a magick rabbit by my side. I remember my song. Do you? Artist, Author and Reiki Master Teacher with over 30 years' experience in creative healing arts and metaphysical studies. Tania inspires people globally to return to natural harmony, draw forth imagination to manifest dreams, embody creative empowerment, and live more magickally and abundantly from their most natural frequency – in essence, Tania helps you to remember your song.

Posted on September 27, 2019, in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink. 10 Comments.

  1. Desiree Bergeron

    Tania!! I love the depth of perspective you present in this post! It resonates deeply with me at this time in my journey (as you well know!! 😉) Thank you for sharing this. Means so much to me. Sending you love and light sistar!! 🌟🌟💫💫✨ xx

    • Oh thank you so much Des!! 🦋 It’s made a huge difference for me too in my life to learn this balance and understand true strength. I remember as a young child and teenager in school being very hard and not showing my feelings. A way not to seem weak and to protect my very sensitive heart that had no boundaries. It did not serve me well, although was the only way I knew at the time. You’re so welcome. I’m glad it resonates with you right now too. Hugs and love to you sweet Sistar 🌟 💞

  2. Thank you for your beautiful insights.

  3. Tania, thank you for sharing your insight within your blog. The first post I read was about Hunab Ku, the source of all consciousness in all of its manifestations and forms and properties. It was a powerful read..and for the Mayans to have understood that is incredible in itself. I came to your page after learning about butterflies in Mayan art from wiki. However wiki’s page didn’t provide enough info on them and so I searched a little more on other platforms. That’s when I came across the reference of Galactic Butterfly within that post after and truly appreciated it. I also appreciate this post for I fear I have become too solid in my ways. I must become soft again. Powerfully soft. Softly powerful..

    Mi tia has butterflies tattooed along her feet and arms, tiny delicate powerful butterflies. She is one of the strongest woman I know, even after being diagnosed with HIV she still is as strong as ever hitting the gym and all that. Butterflies were always her thing. I wonder if she knows the significance of them..I must ask her.

    Thanks again, I will continue to read on.

    • i so appreciate your words emmanuel and for stopping by to immerse in some of the musings i’ve shared. i love that it is hunab ku/the galactic butterfly that connected you here, as it has been a powerful source of guidance for me in my life. i did a lot of research myself to bring together the info for that, pulling from many sources, so i understand it being a task to find “enough” in just one place. i like to try to make things accessible and more in depth, as i know it’s challenging to find info out there. i’m glad it helped.

      i also love that you found some value and inspiration from this post. i can relate to how you feel, as there were times in my life i was afraid to be soft too.

      thank you for sharing about your beautiful “butterfly” 🙂 she does sound to be an amazing woman.

      grateful to connect with you. many blessings to you

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