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Don’t think in terms of comfort; think in terms of freedom. Don’t think in terms of safety, think in terms of being more alive. And the only way to be more alive is to live dangerously, is to risk, is to go on an adventure. And the greatest adventure is not going to the moon – the greatest adventure is going to your own innermost core. ~Osho
The most adventurous journey to embark on; is the journey to yourself, the most exciting thing to discover; is who you really are, the most treasured pieces that you can find; are all the pieces of you, the most special portrait you can recognize; is the portrait of your soul. ~C. JoyBell C
Letting Love Lead ~ Alluvia Love on a New Relationship Paradigm & My Own Thoughts
Below you will find a timely post that my sweet friend and fellow Reiki Master Teacher, Denise Sheehan of Sage Spirit Coaching shared as a guest blog today by Alluvia Love on new ways of relating from a place of unconditional love. But first, I wanted to share some of my own feelings that her article and recent conversations brought to mind.
There are many ways to “be” in relationship and more and more people are discovering what speaks most naturally to who they are, as they continue to process, work with shadow energy, and start releasing old definitions and conditioning discovered through their personal exploration. This opens up an expansive experience where each person can choose how to create the kinds of enriching relationships that feed their individual and unique souls.
People are feeling freer, more empowered, and joyful when they realize they no longer have to live by certain standards and expectations, and they let go of pressures and unnecessary roles they “have” to play.
The unconventional is becoming more conventional in some ways, as more people embrace their trueness.
Getting married, having children, and finding that “one” person is so beautiful, enriching and wonderful to both the individual and all whom that person touches, yet it isn’t for everyone and isn’t the only or “right” way.
What is ALSO beautiful is knowing who you are, embracing, embodying, and sharing that in the way most expressively mirroring of you and how that translates in the form of relationships and creative “birthing” energy, which makes you a powerful and valuable investor of energy into the collective pool as well, helping to enrich others’ lives because you are living authentically.
As the masks and illusions drop away, we are left with the creative freedom to reinvent our lives, work, relationships, and fulfillment from a place of love within our hearts that speaks to each of us, as is perfect and aligned with personal and collective evolution. However that translates is perfect.
It’s interesting, but not surprising that this post came in today when I was actually sharing about my own way of relating and approaching relationships with a couple of dear people in my life. I’ve been in many relationships and have experienced a lot over the course of my life, playing out things that were not me and me, moving in and out of exploring it all to discover what feels most naturally reflective and mirroring of who I am.
When I didn’t understand myself fully because of being so energetically impressionable and unable to decipher me from others, I fell into roles that ultimately were uncomfortable, unsatisfying, painful, and confining – at times even detrimental to my health, well being, and chosen path I came to live out. Ultimately learning that I find my own satisfaction within my own experience and that relationships are something I choose to share in, but not that I need something from.
I don’t view relationships as needing to supply me with any or all things because I know that is only satisfied by my relationship with myself, which allows me the experience of giving and receiving from that well of wholeness I feel within.
Over the course of my life I have given a lot energetically away to others, as I know many of you have as well, and I’ve learned to give to, and love, myself now. In receiving that nurturing from me, it ultimately results in a reflection of receiving from others as well, in a healthy and perfectly mirroring way without “needs” and attachments.
And like many of you, I’ve tried to go against a lot that I intuitively felt and this has only brought sadness and disappointment because I would try to make something happen that simply wasn’t possible, or had expectations rather than allowing, releasing, and focusing on my own shifts. Eventually this leads me back to a greater understanding of myself, which never is about any one person or relationship, but what that reflects about the core of who I am.
I only have issue with this when I start to define things and place myself in a box that I am never going to fit into or when I focus on things conditionally or in limited perspective to my usual expansive ways of seeing. This takes me to a place that is not of my nature and essence, although is a healthy exploration of shadow and things that come up from others around me that get triggered.
We all have a choice about how we want to create our lives and experiences to be and perhaps that will evolve continually for you, or you’ll find one way that feels most resonating for life and grow within that particular experience played out.
I think the key is to love one another no matter what we choose and to do our best not to add to the pressures, judgments, or criticisms of one another if in fact what someone chooses is completely opposite or incomprehensible to you.
We cannot know, nor live, the journey each person is on and what is important and healthy for them to do. But we can love each other regardless because that is what love is all about, afterall – it does not see with bias.
Anyway, here is Alluvia Love with her insights on new relationships in her article, “Letting Love Lead”:
Relationships/connections are primarily about Love over any individual’s needs and when Love is allowed to lead, individual needs are met. This is possible because Love, and not ego, determines the way individual needs are met in accordance with the needs of the Universal whole. ~ Alluvia Love
Humanity is entering a new relationship paradigm. The new way of connecting with another human has nothing to do with rights, ownership, expectation or exclusivity. It is about learning to let Love lead, about trusting an abundant and life-affirming Universe, and about service to Gaia.
Does the idea of losing control of the other humans around you bring terror? Let your fear guide you to your limiting beliefs about what is a human being and what is our natural role in connecting with one another. If you look around you will see that the only being you can control and own is yourself. Every other being will come and go and live and die on their own path. Even if they make a promise to always be there, it will not be true in a physical sense. Truly we cannot own anything because it is all a temporary manifestation of a life-affirming Universe in which change is the only rule.
Humans seek to create certainty in an uncertain river of life. We create insurance contracts, employment contracts and marriage contracts. Human agreements don’t mean anything to the natural world which will burn, erupt, erode and die. This is what the paradigm shift is all about. Humans have gone too far against nature and the Universe is requiring us to realign with the natural world in order to survive as a species. The paradigm shift is about reclaiming our true human nature so that we can co-exist peacefully and beneficially with Gaia.
So the new paradigm relationship work for humans is all about reclaiming self in connectivity with Gaia. In rediscovering our true sacred nature as humans and our unique life paths as individual sovereign beings in service to the Whole, we also rediscover and reclaim our ability to connect in a life-affirming way with other humans.
Flo Aeveia Magdalena, healer/teacher/author, says it beautifully:
By claiming the self, you learn how to stay in a dedicated space of ritual with your own being. It means that everything you’re living makes sense because it honours everyone at the same time. It honours you and it honours the other person. It frees them from responsibility to make you happy, to have sex with you, to marry you, to give you children, or to be in some way present for you – supporting you financially, emotionally or in any other way. It says, “I’m going to do all this for myself. I’m going to live this in a way that makes sense to me. Every moment from this time forward, my own honouring is my primary focus. If I honour my field in integrity, I live in a fullness that makes me awaken all the time to my own capacities and potentials.” You are creating a reality so that the other person can respond to you from that set of circumstances.
Reclaiming self is the service we all commit to one another in any form of relationship. It is our highest service to “other” and to Gaia. Self-realization takes us out of victim mode (I need you) and stands us firmly in our personal power (I am complete and I want to share my capacity with you). The empowered human always has a unique potential to share, and nothing to demand or expect or exclude.
Exclusion is an old paradigm concept. New paradigm is inherently interconnected and therefore all-inclusive. That doesn’t mean we have to allow what we don’t enjoy in our immediate surroundings. It means we serve the highest purpose for everyone involved. That means if two humans cannot enjoy one another, then they will physically separate themselves by a distance so as not to diminish the vibration/capacity of either. This is an act of courtesy and not fear. Ultimately we will all cease to fear one another. The empowered human has nothing to fear in relationship because she is already complete. Anything the sovereign allows into her realm is Joy to her because she lets Love lead.
Accountability to Embody ~ Making Changes with Essence Integrity
I’ve learned that I simply don’t want, nor can afford, to put energy into things and experiences that no longer serve, and truly aren’t aligned with, what I’m guided to create from the essence of my natural frequency, as that not only affects my well-being, but my ability to be of greatest service for the highest good and to people who are also taking accountability in their lives.
Realizing where my time and energy would be better focused for that greater good supports embrace of Divine timing and flow of all things to take place, which creates that magickal alignment.
This also creates the basis for profound change that comes from within and stems from a more natural alignment with what is core to me, rather than a displacement of my desires to be in that alignment.
Like some of you, I have felt guided to withdraw physically from many things in order to actually be able to give more, which is through my own transmutation into who I am in essence.
This has involved, and will continue to involve, a lot of life readjustments, reorganization, review, and release, in order to focus on what is of most soul-benefit right now to be engaged with. It takes me on a journey through the shadows, as well as the light, so that I may bring a fuller depth of understanding to the choices I make and the creations that therefore will birth in greater wholeness.
One of my only outlets of connection, besides my work and personal life, is via this blog, where I share much of what feels important, inspiring, and creatively supportive to impart.
I share a lot of my personal journey whether literally or symbolically through my blog, as a means of support to others that I know go through similar experiences and might feel alone in that process, or like no one understands it.
It’s okay to change your mind, it’s okay to find new inspiration, and to admit you are feeling stifled even in the role others may respect and admire you for being in currently. This is a sign of growth and natural evolution. And as you let go of those “roles”, you are able to walk through new doorways of experience that provide the opportunities for expansive breath into new freedom that perhaps is less defined, but more expansively amorphous to what is energetically reflective of the nature of now.
I’m quite the shape-shifter that embraces change and I am willing to put that out there when it shows up, as I believe that change is the natural process of life and the one thing you can count on always being a part of it, whether you embrace it or not.
I’ve shared before that it has become increasingly important for me to shift gears and to let go of a lot of things that feel complete at this time in many areas of my life. This, in order to embody more of my essence and consciously create a new paradigm of experience I am called to, knowing that as I do so that it is the most responsible, accountable, and service related thing I can do by extension of BEING this.
This reflects in the expression of my creative life force/work I am called to do and also the life choices I make. So you HAVE seen, and WILL continue to see a lot of shifts in these regards from me.
For me, my original soul missions have and are coming to closure, which leaves me with expansive choices to make from a different essence place of myself. That is both exciting and can also invite much unknown that calls for greater courage, deeper trust, and full-on heart immersion, since this opens a wider realm of possibilities where things are revealed only moment to moment, as well as shift moment to moment.
That wasn’t quite the game before, as I did have foresight and an understanding of what I had set out to do. Now, I am really creating anew and in a state of reclaiming sovereign free will on a whole other level.
Much of what has been evolving for some of us in integration lives, is closure to a lot of what we originally set forth to accomplish, if in fact we’ve been doing the work. This has been happening increasingly since the last couple of years. And yet, in many ways, the realization of that hasn’t caught up for some, and in other ways some are caught in a perpetual, one-directional spiral, not realizing they have the ability to create a new spiral expanding out in many other directions.
And still yet for some, perhaps there is a place of comfort you’ve “arrived” at and are ceasing to stretch yourself into another level of evolution that has been nudging you.
Of course it’s well deserved to take a rest and break after much work I know many have been doing. But complacency and that sense of “arrival” you may have been pursuing, can be a hindrance not only to your own growth potentials, but to the collective at large.
Personally, I don’t feel okay with being complacent and just because I get to a place where I become really good at something I’ve been doing for a while and what people come to expect or connect me with, I know it is not for me to stay there, and to continue to step into another level to deepen and expand my experience, as well as to be of greatest service to others through that process and embodiment.
That may not be the case for everyone, but for me, this involves recognizing the time for allowing others to take over in some ways, and assisting them in that process to do so, and to move into another role of bridging things from the radiance of my “beingness”, which I nurture by supporting what is true to it.
Things are ready, and will become ready, BECAUSE of your willingness to release into more of who you are and into what seem like new realms, but truly are the most natural, core expressions of you.
In this way of opening to more possibilities and limitless expansion, you create doorways for others to access the same.
And this involves changing the inner landscape so that it is aligned with all that you hold dear, rather than focusing on the outer ideals you are trying to live up to, convince yourself you are reflecting, or feel compelled to project change ON to.
The inward journey of embodying who you really are in this moment, and bringing that forth, rather than trying to emulate what you feel you “need” to, or “should”, be doing – trying to come up with an idea that you try to fit yourself into – can be exasperating, draining, disappointing, and in the end will not produce the results you desire because they aren’t consistent with who you really are. This will be felt by others, whether consciously or subconsciously, and will also draw to you the energy that reflects this inner inconsistency.
It will also defeat your efforts to create change around you, as if you are not truly embodying that which you desire to see changed in others, you have already set yourself up for disappointment.
I believe that one of the greatest fears is to admit that we may not be who we really think we are. The same fear that others are demonstrating in not wanting to change in the ways you desire, is the fear within self that isn’t able to reconcile a similar inner discrepancy.
I think that what would be valuable to the process is a willingness to be honest with ourselves, to be open to honest feedback from others and their reflections of our inconsistency, and to be mindful of the type of energy we are putting out there.
I think a willingness to accept when it’s time to move into a new level of you is key and this can reflect in many ways, adding on dimensions and layers to what you currently do, or completely shifting into new aspects of yourself most currently reflective. I feel that the willingness to let go of control in any one area that we’ve attained or become good in, recognizing timing and how others are now capable and ready to step into those realms can be very beneficial. This will assist in living from true abundance and connection to your collective family, whom will be grateful for your honoring of their ability to step into their new roles you may be leaving.
I know there are times you may feel the need to be all things and master it all now, and yet we each have different and constantly evolving roles that are there to be honored throughout the course of our journeys, as well as carried out by others when we have a greater personal calling and better use of our gifts elsewhere. I’ve also seen the scarcity and ego mentality of people claiming certain attainments, that are unwilling to support others into their fullness or to help them to take over some of the positions they hold or may have held, as there is an attachment and fear not just of wanting to hold on to that status, but of fear to move into a new role where at first it will again be new in feeling and like starting from the bottom. This can all end up revealing a potential, false abundance mentality that has not yet truly been embodied.
Yet, if truth be known, in actuality the new role you release yourself into will be the most natural and most expansive you’ve experienced so far, if you can get past that old fear pattern that yes, is still hanging on, regardless of the conscious claims you make.
Because, let’s face it…it’s scary to move beyond something you know really well, right? But a little healthy fear is the catalyst for great change. It’s not the enemy…it’s indication of your desire for the new (or rather, indication of the more “you”), nudging you to get all your parts in alignment for the inevitable.
And imagine now, if you will, the people who are on their beginning phases of their more conscious journey, or in their own transitional phase into the next change, then.
Remember how it may have felt to you before you got to where you are now feeling very comfortable, and remember how you feel now if you in fact are being nudged out of your comfort zone to yet ANOTHER new leg of your evolutionary journey? When you remember this feeling, maybe you can then share a bit more compassion and let up on your desires to exert effort outside of yourself so that you’ll have more energy to put toward your own changes, which will reflect so beautifully for the people who will benefit from your desires and efforts embodied, rather than projected.
As one door closes, another opens…and the doors you close, are the opening doors for others, and vice versa. We are always in a connective process that triggers a collective domino effect. So when we make courageous choices to change, others are simultaneously ready and able to do the same.
Life is always an experience of wholeness….we are both leading and following, teachers and students, changing and awaiting change, fearing and desiring change…. at the same time. If you can stand in the place of acknowledgment, and detachment from identifying solely with any of these, then you can just be with the process naturally.
We each affect change and provide a catalyst for each other, but it stems from what is taking place within and then embodied, inside out. We are all on different journeys and different places along those journeys. Increasingly it is becoming important to act responsibly, consciously (awareness is power), and to be accountable for what you embody, as well as seek from within.
Make the changes that are true to you and not some idealized version of you, or as an act of defiance, or guilt. And if you don’t yet know what that is, then make a commitment to start listening more so you can hear the subtle voice of your truth amidst all the “noise”, which can be both obvious and not obvious.
“For those of you who have exited your cocoon, your new mantra is, “Change is not Fearful.” You have perhaps focused on either emotional or physical issues and now you are likely moving into the opposite to learn that change is not fearful – just a ‘new normal’. There will be a time when change will be perceived as joyful. But for now, you’re learning it just is.”…..
“Some of you wish to stop a bit and learn how to love yourself. That is fine and good. Love is key to new earth. But part of that self-love is accepting your shifts and those of others without many, if any, visible changes.
Perhaps you expect those of the light to have some sort of halo about them so that you can tag them as important to your transition. In searching for that halo, you have listened to that channel, meditated with that teacher and drifted from thought to thought – hoping this or that person is the one who would anoint you as of the light. Just as your parents once told you that you reached certain stages in your life by allowing you more freedoms and responsibility.
You look for parents or community members to tell you that you are growing, shifting, changing. When in truth, they know as little as you do about this shift. There is no guru or parent to give you the parameters of the new you – there is only you.”
~Brenda Hoffman
The Tragedy of Denying Feelings
Humans have learned to fear feeling….to deny the wisdom of the body and senses and worship the mind solely.
As a result of being out of touch with their senses, people walk through life completely oblivious to their surroundings and the impact their choices and footprint create on the environment and everyone and everything in it, as a whole.
It’s as if feeling is a foreign invader that we either don’t want to know about (ignorance is bliss) or we want to completely eradicate altogether.
We’re taught to narrow our attention and always obsess over the future, while clinging tightly to the past. But this merely leaves us unable to function in the fullness of who we are in the present.
And, in so doing, we rely on others and so-called “experts” and “authority” figures to make decisions for us. It is a way to not take responsibility with a convenient excuse that we’re too busy or haven’t the ability to understand how we truly feel in order to even make a choice or have an opinion.
So it becomes easier to allow others to choose that for us.
People have run away from authenticity of feeling and replaced this with surrender to what is socially acceptable.
And what does this create?
A build up of explosive, unexpressed feelings that get triggered when you least expect it, and all versions of suppressive and numbing substances and behaviors to stuff those feelings even more deeply.
And then blame is attached to these secondary reasons for our suppression…all simply due to our learning to deny emotional feelings and messaging and continuing to accept that this is acceptable.
Come back to yourself.
Embrace every emotion and sensory feeling, as therein lies the gift of your humanity.
Freedom
“The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are. You trade in your reality for a role. You trade in your sense for an act. You give up your ability to feel, and in exchange, put on a mask. There can’t be any large-scale revolution until there’s a personal revolution, on an individual level. It’s got to happen inside first.” ~Jim Morrison
“You find freedom inside – nowhere else. In the heart of every human being is that one space which is free, which is filled with Peace, and which is full of Love.” ~Prem Rawat
“Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility.” ~Sigmund Freud
Every day you have the ability to choose to exercise your sovereign free will. Let today be a reminder to always remember and embody who you really are.
Fear of Freedom and Free Will?

Photo I took in Ecuador of wild horses – Horse medicine has been reflecting very clearly to me my true nature inherent within
Control and coercion will not change behavior.
The more you rigidly try to force yourself or others, the more you and they will want to run away or fight.
Why are we so afraid of the passionate, unconventional and freely independent sides of ourselves?
Many times it is because of having been controlled ourselves that within that frustration and loss of self do we look to try and find some small feeling of control around us, and reenact the same upon others.
Sometimes it is the pure fear of unbridled choice and responsibility that has us trying to rein ourselves in.
When we recognize the fear inherent in these experiences, we can realize the price of breaking the spirit and the freedom and joy we’re losing out on supporting in one another.
Now We Are Free – Abraham Hicks
Set to one of my favorite songs, here is Abraham Hicks with what I feel to be a resonating message for the now even though it is from four years ago. I “stumbled” upon it again this morning (as I believe I may have posted it once before) and like with anything, there are no accidents. It energetically goes along with something I was sharing/channeling yesterday with a friend in a very important conversation on the reality that is being activated within each of us.
Always loved this one and its profound simplicity of a truth that resonates for me.
New found freedom in your new found absence of resistance…..







