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Freedom is About the Natural State

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Photo by Elena Shunilova

 

“Spiritual people can be some of the most violent people you will ever meet. Mostly, they are violent to themselves. They violently try to control their minds, their emotions, and their bodies. They become upset with themselves and beat themselves up for not rising up to the conditioned mind’s idea of what it believes enlightenment to be. No one ever became free through such violence. Why is it that so few people are truly free? Because they try to conform to ideas, concepts, and beliefs in their heads. They try to concentrate their way to heaven. But freedom is about the natural state, the spontaneous and un-self-conscious expression of beingness. If you want to find it, see that the very idea of ‘a someone who is in control’ is a concept created by the mind. Take one step backward into the unknown.” ~Adyashanti

Making Waves

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Soaring Spirit

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Don’t think in terms of comfort; think in terms of freedom. Don’t think in terms of safety, think in terms of being more alive. And the only way to be more alive is to live dangerously, is to risk, is to go on an adventure. And the greatest adventure is not going to the moon – the greatest adventure is going to your own innermost core. ~Osho

The most adventurous journey to embark on; is the journey to yourself, the most exciting thing to discover; is who you really are, the most treasured pieces that you can find; are all the pieces of you, the most special portrait you can recognize; is the portrait of your soul. ~C. JoyBell C

The Garden of You

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Photo I took in Montreal Botanical Garden of Mother Earth

 

You…Your Life… is a garden…reflecting what you cultivate, nourish, nurture, and give light to, but also reflecting what you neglect, let run amok, don’t weed, and the choices you seed in each moment.

“This outward spring and garden are a reflection of the inward garden.” ~Mevlana Rumi

 

You Complete You

When you truly give up trying to be whole through others, you end up receiving what you always wanted from others. ~Shakti Gawainwholeness

Do you find yourself looking for someone or something to complete you and never feel that you can be happy until you have that perfect partner, friend, job, or thing?

Or do you find yourself content and fulfilled whether on your own or not, or in any given situation?

So many of us have spent a good portion of our lives looking for these puzzle pieces to a puzzle that never was missing a piece to begin with.

You are already capable of being whole in the here and now, as you already are, but simply forgot.

Be the love you seek. Be the joy you desire. Be the peace you crave. Be the wholeness you are looking for.

Yes, we’ve heard it all before…self-love is key to fulfilling relationships and experiences. And yet many of us still keep searching….

Expecting love from others is setting yourself up for disappointment. Expectations of any sort create disappointment.

And, you’ll always attract people and things that reflect something to help remind you of your wholeness – person or thing, or not.

When you can love yourself enough to hold your own light AND darkness, then you can do the same for others and you come to a point of being able to extend radical compassion to everyone you encounter and relate with, especially yourself.

If you empower others with being the source of your needs, desires, and fulfillment, then you will never get anywhere, as humans are fallible and each has their own experiences to go through. So you end up choosing to be in whatever state they are in, rather than choosing your own.

It is your responsibility to be responsible about your life. When you displace power to others to be your source for anything or everything, it becomes easy to place blame elsewhere or find excuses and scapegoats for embracing your own growth.

If you give someone that kind of power over you, who really is responsible for that?

Relationships are powerful growth facilitators, but the key is in continuing to develop your own individuality, independence, and sense of self during the process of relating, learning, and loving. Your personal growth never ceases to be important and it isn’t just for yourself that you do this, but for the greater good, as well as the beauty and grace of your relationships with others.

Cultivating and nurturing your own passions, having some alone time, and time with friends outside of your relationship, really enhances the relationship. When you complete you, you’re in for a truly amazing union with another, as then you are purely there to enjoy each other and in so doing, enhance the quality of the companion you’ve attracted (or will attract) and the time and/or life you share with them. You can shift things instantly within your current relationship as well, the minute you start pointing the power back to yourself and being your own source.

And, when you stop trying to heal and “fix” others, which really is a subconscious cry to heal yourself, you will also start creating things you want more rapidly and come to experience greater and enduring quality of life because you are healing the source, rather than a reflection of it – efficiency and effectiveness at its best.

Since we attract reflections of ourselves in others, as you complete you, the people you attract will start reflecting more of what you always hoped for because you no longer displace your power and now walk in the grace of those things yourself.

The World Awaits – You Need Only to Say Yes

say yesSaying yes to life, to your gifts, to your birth right to experience life to the fullest with sovereign free will is a powerful affirmation you can say each day.

I remember how much I dreaded school when I was young. It literally made me feel sick every morning and when my mom would come wake me up for school, the first word I would utter with dread and anguish was, “no.”

I was definitely not saying “yes” to life and I can only imagine how the negative outlook and feeling I had, not to mention the way I strongly said that word, was contributing to my sick feeling. That’s not to say I didn’t know what I wanted or did not want, but at that age, I didn’t have a choice about school. I only had a choice as to how I wanted to approach it. And while I was a very good student, I likely was creating a lot of extra work for myself, working against the energy I was adding to the mix, just by that “no” every day.

People are becoming more mindful these days about the words they use, their perspectives, and approaches, but there are many who still do not and times when we forget.

How many times do we say things that we wouldn’t otherwise say if we realized the power and magnitude of the words we choose in each moment? Living consciously is challenging, yet can truly change your life.

Every word you speak and every thought you focus on, sets the stage for the energy and experience of the day and, ultimately, of your life experiences.

There’s more to it than merely changing a word or perspective, however we have to start somewhere and that’s one simple way you can effectively and instantly start to transform your experiences and become more conscious and present of what you are feeling and choosing in each moment. Gratitude, presence, being in your heart, staying unconditionally compassionate with yourself and others, patience, and embracing everything as perfect for your journey, are ways you can go even further.

Then of course the stillness of going within and feeling what is there messaging us creates greater empowerment and wholeness of experience.

If you have the desire to experience life in this way and to truly make the changes you desire to experience, then you are half way there.

Part of the journey with all of this is to continually encourage yourself to go a little further each day. Stretch yourself into something that pushes a little more at your comfort zones  to reach that one extra step, no matter how small. It’s not always easy, but it can make a world of difference when you take the step to commit yourself to the process, your path, the journey, and ultimately to you.

Gratitude is a wonderful starting point and when you come to understand the power of this and how it can change things drastically, amazing things begin to shift and take form from a simple perspective change that sees how perfect every situation is to your growth. You are more than you give yourself credit for and there is more waiting for you than you are aware.

The world is a playground of possibilities and a canvas of diverse colors you have yet to discover. We become comfortable in our own worlds of existence, never realizing that across the globe millions of people and sentient beings are sharing in this experience of life with us, right here and now, that are beautiful in every way and share a common thread of the pursuit of love and fulfillment. We take different journeys to get there and there is a lot clouding the path, but this stems from misunderstanding, being misinformed, not realizing our true innate power, and fear.

Expanding your horizons in whatever way relative to your experience and abilities, is truly vital. Lessening up on mass information intake and opening up more to your own personal experience, inner gauge, and the beauty of the this Earth and this Universe is helpful.

Saying “yes” to life and to your right to experience it to the level of your personal fulfillment is key. Doors will open when you start to make changes and support and believe in your dreams.

It starts with you.

Whatever your dream may be, have the courage to follow it and support it. It’s a dream for a reason. Not merely to just stuff it all away to subdue your blues. We’re alive for a reason. Not to just be in the physical, but to integrate it with the spiritual for an all-encompassing totality of chosen experience we can each create.

Some of the steps are breaking out of your comfort zone more, facing your fears, being mindful of your thoughts and beliefs that keep you stuck, making more courageous decisions not based on fear, nurturing and building belief in yourself and your confidence, listening to and supporting your real feelings, and starting to say “yes” more to things with the knowledge that you are capable of handling anything that comes your way and there’s really nothing to lose.

There is much out there to explore and if you have the desire, there is a way.

Do you value and voice who you really are? If not, what could you do to nurture the child within to feel safe enough to do so?

Where there is fear, you are only asking of yourself to love yourself more. Where others are fearful and act out, they are only asking of themselves to love themselves more and we can help both them and us by expressing that love in the moment.

The more you let your energy out, the more fully you will naturally flow in the essence of who you are and more consistently feel peace and calm in your life no matter what is around you.

I celebrate and see who you really are…that’s all that really matters to me. Not the stories or the temporary “stuff” that is winning your attention. All of that can be a thing of yesterday if you love yourself today.

Are you ready to say “yes” to you and to life?

Responsibilities…When Does Peace of Mind Come?

This post is inspired by a beautiful friend of mine, so many others in similar situations, and even myself from the past.

She is an amazingly strong young woman who is always giving of her heart and has  been taking care of everyone since she was a little girl and is now feeling lost, depleted, and on the verge of breaking. And that breaks my heart to know.

I hear from many clients and people I know about their heavy “responsibilities” that are the focus of their life currently. So many have been taking care of themselves and others for a good portion of their lives for one reason or another, or have felt the need to put their lives on hold because they had to take care of everyone else first. Sometimes this may be sick family members, younger siblings, family or friends that are in challenged time periods in their lives, and sometimes this may be the ideas like “I can only do what I want once I have “x” amount of money, get the job I desire, the house I want”, or any number of other “things” we “think” that we need first in order to have the peace of mind desired.

I feel that peace of mind will come when you have peace of heart…and that stems from going within and taking care of yourself, listening to and nurturing YOUR needs, asking yourself what YOU desire, providing yourself the space and self honor and respect to feel what you’ve been pushing aside for so long in order to endure and carry on with the heavy load of responsibilities you have been carrying out.

And then doing something about it today.

I do understand how challenging and emotional it can be to see loved ones go through pain in any way. It’s really hard not to want to be there in all ways and help them. And yet there is a fine line of balance we have forgotten. We are either all or nothing it seems with things. We seem to intellectually “get” that we can’t change others and we can’t help anyone if they don’t want help. And we seem to understand how we also aren’t being of the highest benefit and support if we haven’t yet learned how to take care of the same exact needs they reflect to us about ourselves.

But we just can’t seem to mesh mind, with heart, with actions. Things get stuck and lost in the reasoning, suspended there as an “idea”, but never translates into actualization.

What good is it to have the thoughts, if you aren’t able to walk in their shoes and fill the empty space they are simply holding?

It can be tough to turn inward and create healthy boundaries for ourselves especially when we see and feel pain all around us, but the pain is also within us…pain that yearns for our self love. And when we listen and support that, we are actually being of most support and responsible service to others.

On last week’s’retreat, one of the guests was in a similar situation, as the young woman I mentioned above. She, too, takes care of her father and has been heavily weighed with “responsibilities”, duties, being overloaded, and unable to think straight on what she wants for herself. She shared that it was very hard to walk away and go on the retreat and she almost cancelled at the last minute, but she knew she just had to or she would break…and if that happens she is also of no benefit to her father or anyone else for that matter – including herself. She had some very close calls in her life that were clearly messaging her that the time was now to take care of herself and her path’s needs.

I’m happy to share that she emerged from the week saying it was the answer to her prayers, feeling renewed and able to see with fresh eyes and get out of her head to make changes when she returned home. She added that the trip “has forever changed me…I feel the dance again and am fully embracing it!”

We often think we have to take care of everyone and are responsible for things, then we end up either in a victim or martyr role, completely deteriorating and the people we thought we were trying to help still have the experiences that they do regardless of how much we keep giving to them. It’s very loving of us to want to help and take care of others, but I have to wonder, when will it be time to take care of you?

I see people have recurring illnesses, “accidents”, challenges, and blocks the more they keep taking care of everyone else and I ask them if they are nurturing themselves in any way, which usually is answered with a “no, I don’t have time for that”, or “I’d like to, but first I need to make sure of this or that and that everyone else is okay.”

The highest gift and service we can provide is by being an example to others and loving and nurturing ourselves into wholeness. Then we are able to truly hold that space of wholeness for our loved ones and others to step into theirs if they so choose. As well as, are able to truly help because our supply of well being is abundant and constantly renewing. We become empowered to empower others, rather than enabling.

I believe we create our experiences by the choices we make and the perspectives we choose to embrace. There will always be something else that will delay us, as long as we agree to that.

Make today YOUR day to choose differently. Life will reflect the empowerment and love you embody.

The Gateways Are As Open As You Are

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We’re approaching a Full Moon on the 16th and then honoring a new cycle with the upcoming Spring Equinox on the 20th. So, there is the potential for much magick afoot, but it takes more than just good thoughts and saying you’re ready. The proof is in the pudding as they say…show the Universe just how ready you are, by being a walking example of what you’re telling it.

Are you ready to charge forward in new ways? You likely will feel more ready when you’ve created a more intimate relationship with yourself that entails knowing all of your parts vulnerably, integrating, balancing, and cultivating inner harmony and authentic self-love.

The keys to access the gateways to your freedom have always been within. You have had to learn to navigate your way through the dark by realizing the light is contained within it, and when you recognize this, you are no longer lost, alone, or blind, but can see your way from the heart through anything.

I LOVE this image, which I feel speaks volumes to an energetic landscape we are collectively riding into. It plays out individually from the personality stand point, but is shared collectively in terms of our experiences in the bigger picture. It was shared by my sweet friend and fellow Reiki Master Teacher, Dawn Vierra of Reiki Dawn and felt perfect for what I was feeling and guided to write. So thank you Dawn, as the image supported this share.

Also, it felt particularly reflective and celebratory of what today marks for me, as it is my 13-year anniversary of legally changing my middle name to my official last name, hence now my full name being Tania Marie. This was to create my authentic reflection of self and a rebirthing into who that is, as I move forward throughout the rest of my life. Taking that leap and charge forward through a new doorway of experience has been vibrationally supportive and aligned with my personal frequency I wanted to embody, and ignited a new flow in my life.

I definitely feel something different in the air and that we have as much available to us, as we are willing to embrace, embody, and enact. It all stems on how much you are ready to “live”, “breathe”, and “be” the necessary shifts so that you can enter a new gateway of experience you desire, because, and in spite, of circumstances in your environment.

I’m seeing people face things over and over again to remind that what ever you are trying to create anew, must indeed be new, from the ground up, inside out, from above to below, and every which way. So experiences and challenges are reiterating the “key” points you’ve chosen to learn, that you value, and are consistent with the message ingredients that are part of the recipe of your desired manifestations. They are helping to bring to light the gifts you may be overlooking and the gifts you have been devaluing, as I see everything as a gift regardless of its nature.

When you realize that the level to which you are able to love yourself authentically and find that harmony within is not at the mercy of anything outside of you, you begin to realize your true power, and find walking through any doorway to be invigorating rather than threatening.

Barbara Marciniak shares this beautifully in her book, “Bringers of the Dawn: Teachings from the Pleiadians”:

“As all of you are on the path of integrating the polarities with your selves, difficult issues are going to come up over and over again. Welcome the difficult times, for they can be your greatest teacher. Stay focused on your own growth, your own path, and your own self, and not what others are doing.

Call on your internal masculine and feminine and set up a dialogue between them so they can begin to work in partnership and harmony. Give yourself a lot of love and encouragement. Make an appointment with yourself and say, ‘I love you, self. You are wonderful self….

When you give yourself the dignity of your own love… Strength and integration become yours because you believe in and love who you are. When you believe in and love yourself, everything starts to go your way.

The most difficult thing for most of you is making the commitment to believe you deserve love. No one else has to love you. You are not here to go around gathering love from other people to convince yourself that you are worth it.

By committing to love yourself and making this commitment the number-one step from which you operate everyday, everything falls into place. You become whole and complete.”

Wishing you grace and courage of heart to step fully through the gateways of experience opening before you.

Alone Versus Lonely – The Art of Loving Aloneness

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Ashes and Snow by Gregory Colbert

There’s a big difference between being alone and feeling lonely. It’s important that we feel whole when solely with ourselves and through that wholeness, all of life becomes fulfilling and you start to see things differently.

Lonely is a state of mind, not a state of being. It involves longing for companionship, wishing NOT to be alone. Being alone with yourself can be emotionally threatening because it puts you in close contact with the one person you may have the greatest challenges relating with or liking much – yourself. 

When we are alone this is simply the state of being by and with yourself, sitting with all that you are and every emotion, thought, and action that you can feel and perhaps don’t want to feel.

Being alone involves a responsibility to and for yourself, and may present challenges within that framework of understanding and commitment where choices are being made in each moment that can reshape your experiences and life.

And after all, if you experience dissatisfaction or unhappiness with things you are doing and experiencing while you are being alone with yourself, then it becomes clear there is no one else to point fingers at. 

Yet, this isn’t to mean you should start attacking yourself either. It simply means that you are in control of your experiences and the way you want to feel in each moment, and that you can love yourself gently and tenderly through the process, as you have longed and hoped to be loved by others when you were in that state of “loneliness”.

Loneliness and longing is simply the child within you wanting your love, nurturing, support and attention. Provide that, and you will no longer feel the longing.

Feeling lonely is a reaction and focus on all of the lacks you think you have, rather than realizing everything you want is within you and always was readily there, but you bypassed your relationship with self, in order to create relationship with others that ironically mirror the missing connection you have with yourself.

It’s a vicious circle and there may seem no way out of loneliness except to move through it with acceptance and new found realization of what it really represents.

And that’s not to say that connectivity and relating isn’t important, as sharing and meaningful interactions are valuable, natural, and enriching, not to mention important to co-creating community.

The difference becomes that when you learn to love being alone with yourself, you can choose who and when you are with others. This becomes an empowered decision that you can make, if you wish, rather than an unhealthy longing and attachment that is merely trying to fulfill an emptiness you haven’t yet given yourself.

There are many opportunities out there if you desire to be part of a group and relate with others in healthy ways, but there are also advantages and value to learning to being alone at times, which can also prove to be extremely supportive to your growth, balance and well-being, as well as keeping you focused on your dreams without distractions.

You can interact and have meaningful relationships with others, but still be ecstatically alone, in which case you are enjoying the best of both worlds and will lessen the feelings of guilt, resentment, disappointment, and pain because you are not defined by the relationships you have, but rather they are extensions of your healthy relationship with yourself that will long endure after others have potentially left your life.

In the empowered sense of being alone, you realize your freedom to make your own decisions, to grow, and to choose what most supports your happiness and needs in each moment. You become accountable only to you and acting from responsibility that understands integrity will result in all of your relating because of your own personal integrity to who you are.

You will begin to realize that you can take care of yourself and that everything beyond the love you feel for you, is icing on the cake. You will recognize a deeper and limitless well of love you have to give and share with others, without feeling over-extended or depleted. You will also recognize your natural boundaries and learn to speak up for yourself when someone crosses lines with that child within that you are now in loving, close relationship with that understands what is okay and not okay to make her/him feel thriving and whole.

The art of loving aloneness will provide you with understanding how times of solitude are invaluable and where you can discover not only inspiration and listen more deeply to the messages all around and within, but also discover that you are never truly alone. In the stillness of heart you experience, you will enjoy deeper communion with the Universe at large and realize how much presence is in your life in every moment.

Discovering the difference between being alone and loneliness will uncover some very valuable lessons of growth. You discover many unrealistic fears and ideas you’ve been carrying around with you about “being alone”. Don’t judge yourself for this, as it was learned, conditioned, and in many cases created because of experiences you had when you didn’t have the ability to know or think otherwise. You may be on autopilot in terms of something experienced that profoundly affected you and the triggers now are unconscious, even when you know there’s no need to feel the way you do anymore.

This is when it will be beneficial to explore the fears and feelings you have, so you can understand what is at the root of them and how this simply no longer applies, unless you decide it suits you more to continue reacting as such, rather than loving yourself into a new and more responsive experience.

Like with anything, it can sometimes be a bit of a process and will be relative to each person, but you can start taking steps to enjoying that loving alone time with yourself little by little. Perhaps start with a designated period of time each day or each week that you spend with yourself discovering something to enjoy. You can also start making more mindful choices of who you spend your time with so that they are healthy reflections, rather than filling superficial needs.

See how your life starts to change, as you make different choices, spend more quality time with self and carefully chosen others, and no longer fuel longings, nor keeping charging triggers.

When you are in that truly harmonious place inside of yourself you WILL naturally attract others that reflect this. So in fact, security with your aloneness will inevitably draw in connections and relationships, but they will be on a different frequency that will feel more aligned and less charged or draining. And others will come into your space only because you want them to and not out of some unconscious need.

When you relate with others from this more self-fulfilled state of being, you will more readily be able to ascertain what doesn’t feel to match your personal frequency and what may simply be an experience to teach you something and integrate for more growth and understanding, rather than be call for deep involvement.

You will move in and out of experiences without the unhealthy attachments, and see the triggers as gifts to further you into loving dialogue with yourself.

Try not to fall prey to self-destructive thoughts during this process, or any process for that matter. You will NOT be without friends, but if you foster a lot of fear, worry, and anxiety, then that will reflect in what you experience for sure. Belief is powerful! Your state of being is a magnet.

Try to breathe through one moment and day at a time and relax more and more away from ideas and time restraints that simply aren’t founded unless you keep feeding them. You will feel more confident, peaceful, and joyful when you embrace the best friend in the mirror first.

<3 Inspired by two friends <3

How Much Are You Filtering Your Truth? – Image Alterations Aren’t Just For Big Media Anymore

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Cloud Gate sculpture — referred to by locals as “The Bean”, by British artist Anish Kapoor in Millennium Park, Chicago – Laura and I take a photo of ourselves that creates an interesting perspective.

We are all aware of the mass deception behind images in advertisements and media with the use of airbrushing, photoshopping, digital alteration, etc. And while many are outraged at this deceit and manipulation of distorted, “perfected”, and some one’s strange version of idealized images that are feeding disorders and damaging self-worth values, there seems to be a trickle down effect that is now being carried out by the hands of consumers themselves.

Given the advances in technology, one has to wonder if this is a) the effect of manipulated conditioning to join in the self-deception and devaluing of all that is naturally beautiful and perfectly imperfect, b) the product of our acceptance and odd love/hate relationship with it and ourselves, or c) both.

While I recognize these advancements as tools for freedom of expression and creativity, there are some pitfalls to this accessible means of “filtering” and “editing” that unknowingly is mirroring the deceptive hands of big media and the pained parts of ourselves crying out for love.

Some may argue that we are being force-fed the ability to do as advertising firms and corporations do, so as to perhaps lessen the focus on their role in these harmful practices, since now it is easy for you too, to manipulate your own self-image, as you would like to project it. While others may cringe at the strange twist of fate that has us now responding to the law of demand they have created us to desire with the illusions and manipulation, so that we can mimic the same deceptions, without the middle man, and do it to ourselves.

Have we become so conditioned into accepting these “idealizations” and rejecting our beautifully “natural” and “real” authenticity that we now would do this? Think about it.

What am I getting at you ask? Well, simply that fact that the public is now widely adopting the similar practices because of the ease of attainable technologies that are being created in response to a twisted demand. What people feel to be a serious and unhealthy abomination affecting the psyche of young and mature women and men alike, across the globe, is now strangely being implemented on a daily basis to imitate the very thing we feel is damaging to us, albeit, in the name of creativity.

I’ve been contemplating this over the last few months, discussed my observations with a few close to me, and shared how incredulous this is. But the reality is, it has become a reality and I felt a nudge to voice it because I find it to be potentially damaging to all of the invested personal work being implemented in terms of self-love and embrace of your authentic personal frequency and true, luminous beauty that you’ve been doing. And it seems so harmless since it comes under the guise of creative expression, which makes it even more threatening.

I see images that people post and I hear comments from many people about the kinds of photos they post of themselves. Like anything I share, it’s never a blanket statement of everyone, but because it is such a big and growing group, I feel there is something important to take away from the observations and perhaps this may spur an inner dialogue with anyone who reads it. Maybe it reveals some of the ways we might be counter-productively buying in to this mass acceptance of devaluing or false projections, and how it not only may be damaging to yourself, but anyone who you are reflecting to, if in fact being used to hide behind, as opposed to creating “art”, which it is thought to be there for.

What I’m talking about is things like the digital filters, especially in social networking platforms like Instagram and built in apps to other social media like Facebook, as well as through our cell phones, which alter the photos we take. Not only do we have Adobe Photoshop where every kind of manipulation can be made, but now we have at-your-finger’s-reach-ability to manipulate instantly and easily.

Instagram advertises: “Take a picture or video, choose a filter to transform its look and feel, then post to Instagram — it’s that easy….It’s a new way to see the world.”

But at what cost are we “seeing the world” if we are false projecting to each other? 

This sounds a bit like popping a pill to erase your memory and thinking/feeling capacity – think “Blue Pill” (blissful ignorance of illusion) in the Matrix.

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One of Deenesh Ghyczy’s fragmented figurative paintings

There’s a whole lot of value in widening our perceptions and seeing from different perspectives, but if the new way to see the world is by taking something that feels not so good, and falsifying it through an alteration to temporarily relieve us and gain outside appreciation that we are craving from ourselves, within, then this world we’re “seeing” isn’t the kind I personally would like to have as my new reality.

Now, I know this may seem like I’m reaching or that it is borderline creativity vs. deceptive illusions. But I’m not knocking the artistic abilities that are simultaneously being offered to many to create interesting imagery that at one time was only available to an artist with the gift to paint or draw, to a photographer who had different lens attachments we don’t have, or to someone who could afford pricey programs to digitally create things.

The fact that anyone can now create “art” and play with creativity is great, but is it worth it to entertain in the ways that some are, and what are the hidden downfalls to watch out for if you do?

What I’m hitting on is the ways it is damaging to how we view ourselves and how that may affect our ability to function from a whole state of well-being, along with the collective message we are empowering through acceptance of this practice. Everything starts out small, but has the potential to escalate from there if it isn’t recognized for what it is and reined in early.

I have heard many people say they won’t take a photo of themselves “unless it is through an Instagram filter” or “thank goodness for Instagram because it’s the only thing that makes me look good”. Referring to hiding this, that, or the other imperfection.

Really? What happened to not liking how magazines manipulate how people look? Why are we now becoming the very thing we felt was damaging and an absurd and fabricated lie of false advertising?

It used to be that a woman might not leave the house without her makeup on. Now, it’s a matter of not sharing a photo without your filter on.

Now, I know it’s not that people are creating longer limbs, chiseling waistlines, enlarging, decreasing, adding where there isn’t, etc., with these applications, but the filters are in fact being used to “hide” things in some way or another, or make us into what we feel is a more attractive image that feels better to project.

I also know that cameras can be unforgiving and put on extra pounds where there aren’t, or that some people simply don’t translate on camera the same as in person. This has always been something people were aware of and made adjustments for. (Not necessarily making it a thing we should accept as an ok practice to avoid because it’s always been that way, as it is our judgments against self that has increasingly become the culprit) But it seems to me that little by little we are being given the tools to not just shift this way to feel better, or completely refuse the photo, but instead can manipulate and alter to appease our egos. And the thing is, it isn’t stopping there, as editing through many different platforms is increasingly taking place whether through photo-altering programs (like Adobe Photoshop), when there’s more time available, or even editing our words we share in all social media platforms, so that nothing is raw, real, or in the moment.

Filters have become the “quick-fix”.

Everything is devised into an “ideal” way we want to be perceived based on what we think about how others will think of us.

And beyond the filters, haven’t we all heard, and said ourselves, “this is my good side”, “only take a photo of me at this angle when I’m sitting or standing between people, or from above to make me look tall and thin”. We have become our own judges and magazine editors to not only tear ourselves down, but to hide behind illusionary filters, rather than “see, feel, and be” the raw truth of our nature without worrying what others think.

I have worked with many photographers in the past when I was modeling and have seen some of them manipulate my photos in ways I didn’t like, taking away my beauty mark on my chin if they saw fit, or airbrushing away at the skin to take away any natural indications of a life well-lived through lines, the sun’s kiss on the skin, or natural pores.

Back in the day I didn’t have a say in what they did to some of my photos, but now I do, and if I were to have a professional photo shoot (especially after I’ve really explored the meaning and implications of all of this), I’ll be sure to exercise it, as well as would seek out a photographer who is more of a “soul essence” photographer rather than handy at Photoshop.

But for the most part, I find that photos taken by amateur photographers, which can be a friend, partner, or family member, and sometimes even yourself, can just as much capture your naturally beautiful essence, if “you” are in your naturally beautiful essence.

I don’t know about you, but I rather prefer that when you see/meet me in person, the same person shows up that you are seeing in the photo.

As an artist, I believe wholeheartedly in art and creativity and there is a time and place for that and conveying a certain quality to the imagery projected (ie. creative quality as fun and art vs. purposeful illusory alterations of what is meant to be a natural image to perpetrate something it isn’t). So it does depend on the context it is being used. But when we are specifically manipulating the natural beauty of people or even nature, in a real-time photo, to make it fit a better looking ideal to receive acceptance and praise for, does that make it art? Or, is that deceptive and harmful in more ways than is realized in the moment when we are fixated on this altered image?

Some may say that it is helpful in visualizing the ideal you, to see yourself in these manipulated versions. My only answer to that, are questions.

Are you visualizing this particular “ideal” because you were conditioned to and as a response to not yet repatterning yourself into self-love? Is it truly a natural version of you if you were in your vibration of authentically balanced well-being, so hence is a projected vision you are naturally manifesting?

I think the key is to understand who you are as an individual and what is naturally within the personal, vibrational framework of your creation that will result from a healthy embrace of life, expressive sharing, and integrated healing. For instance, I believe we each have a “natural” weight that we would be if we were in balance, love, and joy of ourselves and the expression of who we are. It will likely not be what you “think” that ideal is and nor can it be compared to someone else, as we are each unique. Nothing about us will be the same.

Aren’t we always regurgitating the importance of loving ourselves exactly as we are? Well….again, another opportunity to walk the walk. And yes, I know this comes with a lot of conscious commitment and work to move through the pains and misunderstandings of the past, but it is possible.

I wrote a post that looks a bit further into this, so you can read more about self value here: True or False? I Am Perfect Just As I Am

The main point of THIS post is to share a perspective to individually explore in how we may or may not be hindering the very values we are working toward embodying, as well as to help us be more mindful of the practices we are engaging in and accepting, in terms of how they relate to the bigger picture.

Technology can be used in synergy with nature if we wisely utilize it as such. But unfortunately, I am seeing a lot of technological advances getting out of hand and driving us farther away from our relationship WITH nature, rather than bringing us to a better understanding and the productive partnership it could be. Not all advances are healthy advances. And manipulations whether of food, nature’s cycles, ecosystems, DNA, information, or even images, are definitely on the radar for making the hair on the back your neck stand up.

Idealizing specific images, genetics, physical traits, or anything unrealistically natural or celebratory of diversity, is not only personally harmful to each, but creates the potential for major segregation, mass judgments, and worse.

This has the ability to alter our perceptions of what is healthy, beautiful, natural, and attainable. Why is it that we are accepting media’s representation of abnormal ideals into our daily lives, even if that is in what we think are harmless and fun ways?

Is it really harmless? Or is it yet another way of deceiving ourselves and setting us up for bigger and more harmful deceptions down the road?

For what it’s worth, I felt guided to share this and as always, you can do with it as feels aligned with your own heart, as we all have free will.

It’s a harsh enough reality that we hear of so much depression, disorders, plastic surgery, and medications to suppress the associated feelings, but there are the damages of deaths also taking their toll, and unhealthy relationships all stemming from things like acceptance of these “industry standards” that we are now, little by little, in trickling ways, accepting into the mainstream of life. Companies are making tons of money off of the insecurities being created.

Self-empowerment and love is freedom.

As mentioned, image manipulation can be done for artistic reasons, but are also being unfortunately used as deceitful tools or harmful false projections. People are easily swayed by photos, as vision is a powerful stimulus to belief. We’ve all heard people say, “I’ll believe it when I see it.”  So when that visual cortex of the brain is triggered to process information seen, it creates a responsive acceptance, unless you have other ways of filtering your beliefs and behaviors.

Image manipulation transforms images to convey what you want, instead of offering what the original image is. If creating art with a specific purpose, this may be appropriate, but if just sharing yourself with friends and family, wouldn’t it make more sense to have it be real?

So the next time you choose the photo to represent you and contemplate the filter to convey it, it may be interesting to listen closely to the inner dialogue going on while doing so. There’s nothing wrong with choosing a photo that shows you at your “natural” best, conveys the essence of feeling or quality you desire to share, or really highlights your special and unique features and characteristics.

However, if you find yourself caught up in damaging self-dialogue and deeply fixated on “altering” your images to “hide” a beautiful reality of you that others would likely find reflective and comforting of their own unique and natural beauty, then maybe there’s something to what I’m sharing.

The more we each can take courageous steps to share our vulnerability a little more each day, the more we help others to do the same.

I see these filters to be much more than a creative tool. I see them also being symbolic of a way of filtering and numbing out what we don’t want to see, hear, feel, and experience, which is a form of self-denial. Like anything that has productive and nonproductive qualities, this makes them a tricky, yet useful tool for learning and growth. I’ve come to see the filters as equating to the illusions and veils we would like to see erased so that we can see clearly and stand in our power.

However, the way that happens is to remove the filters.

If not being consciously monitored, I see these filters as a potential hindrance that could symbolize our keeping blinders on and numbing us to the raw, refreshing, renewing, and freeing reality we so desire. And I don’t feel that it will stop at just this, unless we connect the dots and make the conscious connections with everything in our lives we are engaged in. 

I see the filters hiding our natural beauty and falsifying our relationship to self, others, and to the nature of reality, and Nature, itself. They’ve taken photoshopping to the instant-editing platform of social media and it won’t stop there.

So keep your senses about you and your heart full of self-love.

What drives the choices you are making? Are you faking your way through life, hiding, or embellishing in order to feel alive and connected, when in fact you don’t? Or are you living and loving out loud, who you really are?