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Paradise Is….


paradise is a state of mind

…and of heart, soul, and being.

It is also a choice.

That said, what’s paradise to one person may be another person’s prison.

One of the “definitions” of paradise is “an ideal or idyllic place or state”. So one might then wonder just whose “ideal” or “definition” are we envisioning when we think of a state of being or “place” we would like to be in?

Wikipedia defines paradise as:

a religious or metaphysical term for a place in which existence is positive, harmonious and eternal. It is often compared to the miseries of human civilization: in paradise there is only peace, prosperity, and happiness. Paradise is a place of contentment, but it is not necessarily a land of luxury and idleness. Paradise is often described as a “higher place”, the holiest place, in contrast to this world, or underworlds such as Hell.”

In general, it’s considered a Utopian state without sorrow, suffering, and so-called “sin”.

And to many, that translates as an idea of heaven or some idyllic island oasis.

Nobody ever taught us that paradise could be the human state of being and the ability to have so many undefined choices and experiences.

Paradise is not really a location, nor a destination or level to attain to. These are just our ideas of how to achieve a certain state of being and experience that we’ve deemed more ideal and perhaps even more valuable.

That feeling you experience when you are on that exotic beach with the crystal clear, aqua blue water flowing around you, the palms swaying in the wing, the sun warmly kissing your skin, birds serenading you, and the silence calming your mind and nerves….this is a sample of what you can achieve in experience and embodiment, where ever you are and in any circumstance, if you know the way back to your true self so that you can have and appreciate each experience with the full capacity of what it truly has to offer you.

Paradise is a natural state of being in your essence…that experience of feeling centered, balanced, relaxed, inspired, and in harmony. It is you, being in flow and movement with greater ease and is available to you at any moment.

It’s not something to chase after and it’s not something outside of your human experience to attain by running away from yourself right here and now in your beautiful body.

It can also be when you are experiencing the things you have been accustomed to thinking are bad or painful, but you experience them from a place of embracing their value and with an understanding that they are expressions needing to flow through and take their course in the natural cycle of things. It may not “feel” so good, but that feeling has its place and can shift when we aren’t attached to judging and anchoring a defining limitation to it.

When you are focused everywhere else – in the past or on the future – worrying, stressing, having impatience, regretting, experiencing excited anxiety, then this as well can remove you from that state of being in the present. You latch on to everything else, without being able to see and experience what is here and now before you, which includes all things you as a human are able to experience.

Yes, granted they are all varying in their feelings, but that variety of feeling is part of the magnificence of your state of being.

Someone, at some point, decided that certain feelings and experiences were bad, not as valuable, wrong, unworthy, and even sinful. And from there, we began to accept anchored beliefs, as defining of our experiences. This conditioning created an inner turmoil where the parts of us that are naturally wanting to just “be” are at odds with and fighting the parts that want to control and beat them down. The result is imbalance, disharmony, and war that wreaks havoc within and without.

Whether you want to call it paradise, or simply being, it really is about that return to natural harmony…just like those beautiful, exotic locations remind you of when you bask in their flow.

However, the frigid snowy landscapes, fall trees without their clothing of foliage, a dry, desolate desert, or even the boiling magma beneath the Earth’s surface are all reminders of states of being in flow and natural harmony as well. They simply don’t think about it, nor judge it. And truth be told, they are all beautiful to witness in their own way.

These are just some ideas to consider that may be helpful to bringing you back to being in that state of mind, heart, soul, and being:

  • be very present, realizing that where ever you are and whom ever you are with can be paradise if you are open to seeing and experiencing the gifts present all around and don’t have expectations to limit them
  • those times you are doing what you love and feeling that sense of natural flow and joy are reflections of your natural state of being – paradise – remember that
  • those times you are feeling out of sorts, uncharacteristically off, or weighed heavily in certain feeling experiences over others, realize these feelings are the threshold to understanding your flow – invite them to share their message, allow the feeling to move through, and recognize where you’re attached and unwilling to pick up anchor so that you can embrace the next wind approaching your sails
  • when you feel thrown off balance, start to get stressed, very serious, and narrowly focused, take a moment to shift your gaze and look all around you – and if you are too overwhelmed, having anxiety, or feel fear, then shift your gaze to just in front of you – shifts in perspective, literally, can help you to breathe in more lightness and shift your mood
  • find ways to laugh at yourself and find the humor in things
  • share acts of gentle kindness with yourself and others that seem out of character, especially if you are stressed, and you’ll soften your current gaze
  • as many times as you can, find something nice to say to yourself no matter how small you might think it is, as well as to others when they are off-balance – remind yourself of the nice things people have said to you
  • find something to be grateful for, even if it’s the ability to walk, to breathe air, or to be alive
  • move your body – dance, exercise, walk…whatever you can do to move the energy and feelings through you
  • get out and be with nature – hug a tree, take a stroll in the woods, smell the flowers, let the sun shine on your face, welcome the rain to cleanse your soul
  • lessen up on, and then rid yourself of, the “shoulds”
  • realize that being human is holy and heaven on Earth is the realization of your state of embodying that
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