Learning Unconditional Love
In keeping with the flow of themes I see/feel come up collectively and honoring what wants to come through in support of that, today’s post is inspired by the sharings of Orin, channeled by Sanaya Roman. In her easy-to-follow book, Personal Power through Awareness, Orin shares a chapter on Learning Unconditional Love.
This chapter has some very simple gems of wisdom, yet these can also be some of the most challenging to actually put into consistent practice. Our minds would like to say, “Oh yes, I get that,” but then we find difficulty in the follow-through. We can even easily avoid situations, create ingenious excuses that seem “spiritually” sound, deny the value of what we are showing ourselves, or stuff down feelings without embracing and processing through them.
We have the ability in each moment and each experience or interaction, to practice unconditional love and create magically empowered moments of healing alchemy. And this is exactly what you will experience, when you in fullness ARE BEING unconditional love in every moment.
I can’t begin to share the ways I’ve seen some of the most challenging of experiences in my own life transform. Where I may have before been frustrated by my illusion of things that felt “powering over” me, I’ve become grateful for, seeing how each of the experiences I call up are there to help me to exercise greater depth of love, and to realize my own “power of” these things in that moment to change my experience instantly – and at the same time transform things collectively.
Rather than fight things or people, if I feel uncomfortable and not so great feelings come up, I press pause and ask myself what I’ve decided to teach myself today that will help me grow in bigger ways. I know that what I just had mirrored to me, was exactly the thing I needed most along my evolutionary trajectory to work on and that when I do embrace and integrate it, it will reveal and gift me with empowered peace and balance.
Unconditional love is a continuous journey to a natural way of “being” we will challenge ourselves to practice throughout life, as since love is limitless, there is no end to how vast it can reach. Radiating the pure intensity of love and integrity, coupled with the ageless wonders of faith, hope, and charity will awaken the mysteries of the universe when we understand the true value of their meaning.
Here are some passages with noteworthy insights from Orin, channeled by Sanaya Roman, from the chapter Learning Unconditional Love:
Unconditional love means keeping your heart open all the time. To do so, you may need to let go of the expectations you have of other people, of wanting them to be anything other than what they are. It means letting go of any need for people to give you things, act in certain ways, or respond with love. Many of you wait for other people to be warm and loving before you are.
Unconditional love is learning to be the source of love rather than waiting for others to be the source.
Unconditional love allows you to join with others and keep your personal boundaries intact. To be able to join with others, know your own boundaries. People desire to join with others, to have intimate connections and yet at the same time to be separate. If you are feeling suffocated in a relationship, being asked to do things you do not want to do, it is because you are not clear about your own boundaries. Although it is easier to blame the other person, it is you who needs to get clear about your boundaries. On the other hand, if there are things you want from another person that you are not getting, it is because you are trying to use the other person to fill a space within you that only you can fill.
Unconditional love transforms fear.
Fear is like a background noise that circles the planet, affecting many actions and decisions. It takes strength and courage to face what you fear. As you become aware of energy, you will also become aware of fear. The first place to examine it is in yourself, although it may be far more visible to you in other people. If, when you look at a friend or loved one, you can see clearly where he or she is closed or fearful, see if it is a reflection of a place within you that needs more love.
It is easier to see things in other people than in yourself. That is why the universe will often teach you something about yourself by putting you around people who show you what you are learning. You would not focus on that trait or part of them if you were not working on those issues yourself.
Fear can come from your thinking patterns. I see common thoughts that tell you you are bad and that if you do not watch out, you may be harmed. These are mass thoughts shared by many. You will at some point face them directly in yourself as you begin going upward into the higher levels of the universe. Fear shows up in thoughts that are very self-critical – wondering if you have disappointed someone, thinking that you aren’t trying hard enough, or that you yourself are not enough.
If you discover your fears as you open to a new relationship, do not make yourself wrong. Fear is an undercurrent and the more you can discover it and face it the more you can heal it through your unconditional love and acceptance of yourself.
How do you discover fear? Look at some area of your life where you have a decision to make. Ask yourself if there are any reasons you do not feel free to make a decision to do what you want to do. Perhaps there is a fear that there will not be enough money, a fear that you cannot make it on your own, that you will not succeed, or a fear that others do not love you and will not want you if you do not live up to their expectations, or if you stand up for yourself. As you look at the decision, ask yourself, what would you do if you knew you were totally safe and protected, guided and loved by the higher forces of the universe? If you knew your soul was assisting you in every way possible, and if you knew you could fully trust your wiser self, would you make a different decision? This is one way of uncovering fear.
Fear is a place that has not yet discovered love.
Fear is often disguised as logical and rational reasons why something cannot be done. Sometimes it comes disguised as a feeling that other people are stopping you. There are many ways to disguise fear – blame it on others, refuse to take responsibility, decide you can’t do it anyway so why try, get angry and quit, and many others. What ways do you use to cover up fear?
If you discover you are doing these things, the first step is to recognize that the reason you are avoiding something or feeling bad about another and yourself is because of fear, and that is a place that requires your unconditional love.
When you notice yourself responding to other people with fear rather than love, perhaps pulling away from them, afraid that they will reject you, make you wrong, or ask too much of you, thank yourself for becoming aware of fear. Love that part of you that is afraid, and then begin to radiate unconditional love.
When you are judgmental or critical, you are most affected by other people’s energy. If you look at people and think, “They ought to work harder, get their act together,” these thoughts pull their negative energy into you. What you see in them is what you begin to experience in them, for as you focus on something you draw it out. What you fear you draw to you. Get in touch with that gentle loving part of you, your higher and wiser self, that guides you in to being more loving.
When you experience uncomfortable barriers and boundaries between yourself and others, it is a sign that you need to transmit more love to others and to yourself….Some of you try to put on a brave and strong front, acting in ways that says, “I will not be vulnerable or hurt.” Yet, that very act creates fear and pain, attracting even more negative action from people that then requires an even braver exterior.
Look at times you want to close your heart, the times at which you say, “I have had enough, this person is not being loving enough for me, I think I am going to leave.” In every relationship, no matter how long-term or solid, there will always be a challenge to keep your heart open. How else do you learn unconditional love but by coming up against all those ares in which your heart is closed? Each time you come to a place in which you want to closer your heart, you now have the opportunity to establish a new pattern, and keep it open. You may still choose to leave or change the nature of the relationship, but you can do so with love. You may think that the best friends are those who never challenge you, who never make you want to closer your heart, and yet if you are with people who never challenge you to remain open and loving, you are not truly connecting with them in your heart. The heart always deals with issues of trusting, opening, and reaching new levels of acceptance and understanding of others.
You learn to love by putting yourself in situations that challenge you to be loving.
Tolerance is an attribute of unconditional love….The quality of tolerance is the ability to stay calm and unruffled no matter what happens, to allow people to be themselves and make their own mistakes. It allows you to provide that warm, safe harbor for them where they can bask in the steadfast light of your acceptance.
Whatever you give others is also a gift to yourself.
The ability to accept other people for who they are is a great challenge, and as you master it, so do you give that gift to yourself….
The quality of defenselessness is important. It is that feeling that you have nothing to defend, hide or apologize for. It comes from a feeling of self-acceptance, not justifying behavior that you want to improve, but knowing that making yourself wrong for it will only lock you into that behavior longer.
If you have nothing to defend, life becomes easier, for you do not have to pretend to be anything you are not.
Life is harder when you think you have to defend your beliefs, thoughts or self. I will suggest that most of the things you think you have to defend are beliefs and ideas that are not yours anyway. You rarely get offended and hurt when someone disagrees with the things you are sure about.
Forgiveness is part of unconditional love. Forgive yourself throughout the day for all the moments when you are not high, not loving and not wise. Forgive others for all the moments they are not high, loving and wise. As you forgive, you make it easier to become those things you want to be, and you make it easier for others to become them also.
People who respond to you in a way that seems to deny that you are a loving being are coming from a place of fear within themselves. If they ignore you, make you wrong, say unkind things, or act in a way that implies you are not their equal, realize that they are coming from fear. You do not need to respond to the fear within them by creating it within yourself. Instead, you can become a source of healing to those around you.
You attract situations into your life to learn from them. One way out and up is by responding with love. As you do so, every situation will change in its nature and character. By practicing, you can learn to broadcast love for longer and longer periods of time.
Love brings beauty to everything and everyone. Most of all, love brings beauty to you.
As you become filled with light, your power to affect the world around you increases.
If people in your life are sending out negative energy and not meeting your expectations, it is important to send them unconditional love. They are simply being themselves, doing the best they know how. You will find great inner peace when you do not need others to act in a certain way to be happy yourself. You will become a radiating beacon of energy and the higher you go the further you can reach with your thoughts.
Find reasons to love the unlovable, to care for people who act in destructive ways. There is not one person alive who does not grow from the broadcast of love. Whenever you give love it comes right back to you, changes your vibration and aura, and you become even more magnetic to love coming to you. It may not come from those you are sending love to, but it will come.
Posted on September 17, 2012, in Uncategorized and tagged learning unconditional love, orin, personal growth, personal power, sanaya roman, spiritual awareness, transforming fear. Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.