What If …?
What if the dialogue we ran in our heads changed from “What if the worst happens?” to “What if the best happens?”
Do you notice how easy it is to go from feeling good about something to immediately feeling a tightening and intensity of damaging emotions in place of that?
The way we look at things and affirm them on a daily basis, will set the tone of our experiences and what we continue to attract in confirmation of these stories we run.
We all receive an intuitional, higher self, first response to things, but because of its subtle voice and our being conditioned out of believing and trusting it, we quickly turn on the robotic inner exchange of running harsh dialogue through our minds that challenges and negates everything else.
Our minds begin to tell stories to us….
“What if _________ happens and I lose everything?”
“What if I’m wrong?”
“What if I fail?”
“What if I get hurt/hurt again?”
“What if I’m fooling myself?”
“What if everyone is out to get me?”
“What if everything falls apart?”
“What if I never find a/another partner, friend, animal companion?”
“What if no one else ever understands me?”
“What if the world falls apart?”
“What if everyone really is heartless and out to destroy everything?”
“What if no one likes my work?”
“What if I’m unable to attract clients?”
“What if I’m not good enough?”
“What if I never get better or never get myself out of this situation?”
“What if ………?”
Our nature isn’t to believe the worst, but our fear has over-written the program of our essence. And any time we receive any confirmation to our fear, that voice gets stronger.
Isn’t it funny that any time we receive confirmation to our intuition, we still ignore it in place of fear confirmations?
The more we run the fear programs, the more reflections of it we call to our attention. The more we also feed anxiety, depression, and anger, the more we indulge a cesspool of spiraling sludge that pulls us down and gets thicker, darker, and harder to get out of.
We have the tendency to keep ourselves small and have become accustomed to that feeling – it’s in our DNA and it’s part of the transformation we’re working toward releasing ourselves from collectively.
The moment I feel a charge and trigger around a stance I’m taking, this speaks to me of being at a transitional place and not one to land in. The moment I feel a charge, I know I’m walking in duality and that’s not my nature to be there. That’s where I’ve been taught I should be, but not where essence lives.
And so, I choose to run a different program – one that focuses on the silver linings or best possible case scenarios, rather than defaulting into the fear voice.
I also do this with my gratitude practice, where I not only voice gratitude for what I do have, but I voice gratitude for things I would like to see happen, as if they already have.
“What if everything works out?”
“What if my feelings are right?”
“What if I succeed?”
“What if I experience even greater joy, love, fulfillment than I ever have?”
“What if my intuition has been right all along?”
“What if everyone and the Universe is conspiring to help me?”
“What if everything works out even better than I imagined possible?”
“What if there are thousands of possible next partners, friends, animal companions waiting for me to open my heart and the next one takes me on the best adventure yet?”
“What if like-minded people are easy to attract and I was more at peace with myself?”
“What if things are unfolding in divine perfection and a beautiful new world is being birthed?”
“What if everyone really has the capacity for kindness and just needs my love to help unlock their essence?”
“What if there’s a perfect audience for my work that is waiting for me to love my own work enough?”
“What if there is an abundance of everything and I’ll always attract the perfect clients?”
“What if I’ve been worthy all along, but just needed to realize it?”
“What if anything is possible, peace surrounds my experience, and there’s a gift to be embraced from this moment that will free me?”
“What if ………?”
Things can change on a dime. Every moment is fleeting and surprises can happen when we least expect it.
But perhaps we can start opening to amazing things or miracles more, rather than expecting the worst always? And perhaps we can shift our perspective when things show up that surprise us in a way we hadn’t really thought of wanting as a possibility, and then embrace the gift within it.
Here the mountain weather is such a perfect example of the surprising ways things can change moment to moment and day to day.
We went from warm, lower 60’s temperatures, hiking, biking, sun bathing, and garden prep time one day to a six inch blanket of Spring snow surprise all around us the next day – even more at the top of the mountains. It was so enchanting and supportive for the day’s focuses of painting, work with clients, tax prep, and life planning. It also prolonged and enhanced more ski chances before the year fully shuts down in that regard.
The first photos are from Tuesday’s hike. These next photos are from yesterday, the day following the hike, but even this morning we had an added almost inch of additional frosty fun even though the snow has completely melted away as if it never was.
I can imagine some people may have run some inner dialogue of one perspective around this surprise – wishing the snow would go away or something of this nature.
And yet there are always other perspectives that could be more inviting to a more pleasant experience or energy to carry for the day – one of which could be as simple as gratitude for the moisture that can help nourish the land in another year that it looks like drought and fires could be on the scene in a big way again.
Another could be surrendering to Nature’s knowing way that we ourselves haven’t gotten back on board fully yet with “being” and that she knows what’s best. Perhaps even reflecting to us our own inner oscillation of balancing inner and outer and encouraging more merging rather than a “this or that” energy signature.
Today, we’re back to sunshine warmth and Spring promise, but it all reminds me to be present to the way in which I invoke each day’s energy with the perspective I’m taking, the energy I’m holding and embodying, and the kind of dialogue I’m allowing to shape my experiences.
True, it isn’t always easy to shift out of certain mind sets or feelings when a lot seems to be working counter to where you’d rather be focused. However, things don’t change by succumbing to what seems prevalent. They only change by choosing to change them, one person at a time, one thought, feeling, action, and belief at a time. We can only start somewhere and I choose to start with me and any little step I can take to make each moment more enriching, even in the face of what I could easily allow to make me feel like its deficient in.
The winds of change will always blow through. Surprises are going to continue happening every single day. I choose to conspire with the energies that see and know something more than meets the eye. I choose to believe the Universe is conspiring along with each of us when we decide to step out of our comfort zones and reach for the stars we truly are.