A simple, but potent message from my pure-of-heart friend Dawn. I love this share and I think it will touch many of you…touch…yes, I agree with Dawn. Human touch is healing and profound. It reminds me of an experience I witnessed many years back at a retreat I was hosting. We were up late one night and having some deep conversations that led to one person vulnerably releasing a lot of emotions that it triggered and them sharing hurts and challenges about something in their life experience. I watched things unfold, observing what would happen as the small group of people listening, decided to hold the space – something the “new age spiritual” community likes to use as the answer for many things. “Hold the space.” And they did what they felt was in alignment with that by not meeting this person in their emotions. At the end of it, this person concluded in saying, “I wished they would have hugged me. That’s what I really could have used. Not the spiritual concepts or detachment.” This opened up a dialogue that was revealing. There’s something to be said about all of this. Any thoughts? Thank you Dawn for sharing and opening this reflection.
I visited a dear friend that’s in a nursing home. I usually go once a week. The last few times I’ve visited her I felt such empathy for her. She was asking if I had spoken to her daughter at all recently. I told her no I hadn’t. She then went on to tell me how lonely she was.
As she did I was petting her on her arm, her hands, her shoulder, the side of her face and top of her head. Her tears flowed down her face from deep within. She told me how much it meant to her to have me pet her. She spoke of how she wished her family would do that for her and how she felt like no one loved her. I dont know if that’s true of her family, I believe they love her, she doesn’t always remember.
The pain of loneliness…
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Posted on October 20, 2018, in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink. 13 Comments.
Dearest Tania thank you so much for sharing this post. It feels super important and I love the story you shared in conjunction with it. What grabs me the most is the simplicity of healing with touch as long as we are listening with our hearts I take notice of your thought of not meeting her in her emotions. That’s a very powerful statement.
you’re welcome and thank YOU again for sharing it..i do agree with you on the importance of this and LOVE as well as agree with your reflection on the little story i shared. i do believe there is a balanced way that isn’t an either/or. i learned a lot from observing that experience that has since changed me to understand just where i wanted to be with this…what you stated so well here ❤ and i must share this in addition….while i was reading your comment and beginning to write my reply, astrid came under my desk and was nudging my ankle. then she proceeded to lick my ankle with her velvety tongue. she has never done this. she's always nibbled on my pant leg or sock, or nudged me. and i found it incredibly telling of what we are sharing, because it immediately got me to stop everything and go down to snuggle her and give her her nightly snack. on top of this, i had just about a half hour ago, been cleaning her eyes and petting her and she was nudging my nose with hers…coming close to my mouth and face, which is part of her change since arriving here, as she would not want anything in her face in the beginning and be defensive. i told her, and recently have been saying, that i would love if one day she would feel comfortable to lick me. and shared how i loved when cosmo did that, but understood her to do what felt right for her. and now she did…she took that small step forward, as i shared my heart vulnerably with her and we both gave from a balanced place.
Oh sweet T, that was no coincidence was it! She was confirming and the two of you demonstrated perfectly and lovingly what we are speaking of. How deeply touching she vulnerably trusted you to immediately respond to her taking that step to give her wonderful momma something she desired. And you were right there and didn’t miss a step. Thank you for sharing ♥️ such a sweet, sweet story. It’s beautiful love you both
i know!! i just love it! ❤ i couldn't have shared it better and then she goes and pulls out another of her magickal twists! i was floored at the synchronicity. she just is so so in tune and wise. our communication is impeccable. thank you for bringing all of this to light! great team work! and i know mir mir was in on it too! ❤
She was, you know it. She loves to be touched, held like a child and petted like one. She has taught me. I feel she really is a silke (sp). A magickal being just like dear Astrid
i ditto that!! magickal AND precious!!! ❤
Oh girl, Would you give you friend Dawn one hug from me just once . Please . Don
♥️. Thank you Don. I needed that
for sure don! i’ll be seeing her in january…however it looks like she saw your message and reciprocated the love! ❤
Great reminder Tania and Dawn. We all need love and touch is a great way to connect with another on a simple, compassionate level beyond words and ideas. Kudos Dawn for offering such a gift to your friend and healing the past with your mom.
i’m so grateful dawn shared this…and for another friend who messaged me privately who opened up dialogue about the varying ways touch can be experienced even if we don’t have someone around. for instance, touching plants, nature, a beloved animal companion, a teddy bear, or even as powerful and simple as hugging ourselves. and it can be a simple touch of someone’s shoulder when you see them, or shaking hands with your other clasped around theirs warmly. that little extra length we go makes a difference. thank you brad for chiming in on the importance of this. wish i could give you a real hug! ❤
Thank you so.much for reading and your comment. It was a huge gift all the way around. Much love